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Baby Boomers and Pornographic Addiction

Sunday, November 1st, 2009

Boomers and Pornography

Boomers and Pornography

By Boomeryearbook.com

Pornographic addiction is not accurately described by an occasional urge to look at one or two saucy pictures now and again. It is a more serious approach; the desire to view pornographic images and an inability to stop doing so. Some Baby boomers, while having taken little interest in such images in early life, may display an obsession in middle or later life that they cannot overcome.

How do you know if you are addicted to pornography? It is a simple analysis of your own behavior: Are you able to make the choice to do something else, or does the urge to view pornography take precedence over other social activities? Are you secretive about your interest in pornography? Does the secrecy element contribute largely to the attraction? Do you masturbate more often? Do you deliberately introduce the subject of sex into general conversation? Does time slip away as you enter a world of pornographic fantasy? If the answer to these questions is yes, you have a problem to overcome.

Elderly Problems: Porno Addiction

Elderly Problems: Porno Addiction

Baby boomers who have been recently widowed might turn to pornography in an attempt to deal with loneliness or isolation. Although a person might not be ready to take the necessary steps to begin a social life again, pornography is something that is readily available in magazines and online, to pass the time and provide excitement without having to involve others. It becomes harmful when the person is unable to interact normally as a result of a pornographic addiction.

For baby boomers who understand that they have a problem, there are a number of solutions that might be applied to eradicate their difficulties. If the pornographic material is being viewed online, purchasing an efficient web blocker will help enormously. Easy to install and password linked, it enables a third party to program a blocking facility that precludes the viewing of pornographic material. Such applications are traditionally used to block certain sites for children but they may be used with equal effect to help adults.

Boomers and Pornography

Boomers and Pornography

Increasing the social activities of the addict is another way to help reduce the urge to view pornography. By filling the hours that are usually set aside for pornographic entertainment, it is possible to reduce certain urges, especially when physical exercise is included.

An unhealthy interest in pornography is rarely without its drawbacks and may even affect a person’s ability to perform sexually. Baby boomers of a certain age might attribute a lack of sexual competence to progressing age when in fact the problem lies in pornographic addiction. Elderly pornography addiction is an increasing problem, probably due to free use of the internet and to the increased competence of an aging society adept at using internet tools.

As with most addictions, half the battle lies in understanding that the addiction exists in the first place and admitting that help is needed to stop. When seeking professional help for addiction to pornography, or for any other psychological disorder, check the credentials of your psychologist carefully.

The Psychological Article on Boomer Pornographic Addiction is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Bang Bang Baby Boomer: Time for Leisurely Sex

Saturday, September 26th, 2009

Bang Bang Baby Boomer

Bang Bang Baby Boomer



By Boomeryearbook.com

Sexual comedy can sometimes take the place of sexual satisfaction when normal people are caught up in the throes of raising a family. Families with two or more children have a pressured routine that involves children quarrelling over the play station; feeding times for babies; school runs and errands; after-school activities; packing lunches; the list is endless.

Somewhere in the havoc, parents try to make time for sexual activity in the five or ten minutes privacy they manage to achieve before their youngest appears at their bedside: “Can I sleep in your bed, Mom?”

As baby boomer parents finally achieve middle age, they breathe a sigh of relief as older kids begin to show signs of moving away to go to college and a number of other emotions take the place of being bombarded with teenage hormonal tantrums and being exhausted by family routines, while at the same time trying to answer the demands of a full time job.

Gradually, life begins to slow down dramatically as the house slowly empties of children. Men and women experience some emotional roller coasters at this stage in their lives, as children who dominated their existence for half of their lives suddenly disappear, leaving the nest empty and somewhat lonely.

The baby boomer solution to loneliness is always to seek solace in company but in fact the obvious and more satisfying solution is closer to home. This is a time when grown up kids have finally left home: before elderly problems set in, baby boomer parents can finally enjoy some quality sex in the privacy of their bedroom at any time of the day or night they choose.

Conversely, at the precise moment when multiple opportunities for uninhibited sex present themselves, the desire to perform is no longer that pressing! Baby boomer ladies with a busy family life often have an active social life. When the temptation to take on more projects crops up, as the prospect of the kids leaving home looms, women often fill their timetable without considering that their time could be better spent warming up the bed sheets.

After spending a hectic and probably over pressured fifteen years or so trying to keep track of four or five people’s social life and probably curtailing one or two sexual adventures of other members of the family, the prospect of being in the house for any reason, even sex, is sometimes just not palatable. There is no reason why frequent trips away should not be on the menu at this time of life, however, when a baby boomer might have more social freedom than at any other stage so far.

Now is the time for jumping in the car and taking off to the lake for a couple of days; having sex under the stars on the lawn; spending two hours in bed in the late afternoon instead of baking scones for the Women’s Institute; being content and enough to pursue sexual happiness while it is available. Don’t let it pass you by…!

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Sex and the Single Baby Boomer

Saturday, September 26th, 2009

Sex and the Single Boomer

Sex and the Single Boomer


Boomeryearbook.com

Baby boomers were the pioneers of sexual freedom in the sixties; the flag bearers of free love and peace and the promoters of sexual enjoyment for everyone. Sexual confidence in abundance was the order of the day back then and most baby boomers embraced their new sexual freedom with considerable enthusiasm.

Baby boomers are now entering middle age; some are already into their sixties and seventies and sexual emancipation is no longer something shocking but rather it is rightly accepted as normal behavior for most intelligent and socially enlightened members of the community.

Later life brings emotional turmoil as friends and lovers begin to develop a frailty that is not consistent with a rampant sex life. Some baby boomers continue to enjoy a healthy sexual and emotional relationship with their chosen partners but for singles it can be a little more complicated.

Single life in middle age is somewhat different to being single in your early twenties and thirties. For men and women with financial stability following a lifetime of hard work and saving for a pension and security, there is a real risk of being exploited financially by a younger sexual partner.

People with strong family commitments and an affectionate bond with children and grandchildren can run into difficulty when trying to conduct a healthy sex life alongside traditional family values. Grandad is not supposed to have sexual feelings and if he does he is expected to keep them securely under wraps and out of sight of the kids and neighbors! Otherwise he runs the risk of being ‘labelled’.

A single existence in later life prompts a barrage of invitations from well intentioned match makers to ‘fix’ a situation that might actually be perfectly acceptable. A man or woman who has enjoyed a lifetime relationship with a wife or husband now deceased might be quite content to enjoy a single life once the pain of grief has abated sufficiently to pursue some social interaction. A determined match maker can cause havoc in the life of a happy and well balanced single baby boomer.

The social opportunities for aging boomers and elderly single people are now so varied it is impossible not to find hobbies and entertainments if one is so inclined. The days when the elderly were expected to sit quietly in the rocking chair on the porch are long gone to be replaced by club outings, fine dining, day trips, sight seeing expeditions and dancing lessons. Everyone is paid attention to; nobody is sidelined in a social scene that caters for every interest and social events are even categorized in the local papers to exactly pinpoint race, religion, age group, dietary requirements, and sexual preferences.

There is absolutely no excuse for a lonely existence for single baby boomers in later life: the social choices are wide and varied enough to cover every taste and preference, from square dancing to golf. Finding a companion to share your interests might present something more of a challenge – almost as much of a challenge as fighting to stay single!

The Psychological Article on Sex and the Single Baby Boomer is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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The Psychological Article on Loss of Libido and How to Get it Back

Saturday, September 26th, 2009

Loss of Libido and how to get it back

Loss of Libido and how to get it back

Elderly Problems by Boomeryearbook.com

Loss of libido can be distressing, especially in later life when there is some prospect of being able to have some leisure time to pursue a more active sex life. To find a solution to a lack of libido, it is vital to find the cause of losing it in the first place and this will either be psychological or physical. Elderly problems will sometimes account for a loss of libido as a person might be experiencing physical disabilities such as aching joints or arthritis.

A physical problem might sometimes be easier to solve than a psychological disorder. For women who are suffering from a lack of sexual interest there might be an emotional cause such as increased stress resulting from losing the family home and having to down-size, or alcohol abuse will sometimes affect the libido. Prescription drugs such as tranquilizers taken to combat other elderly problems might also have an adverse effect on the patient’s libido, to the extent that someone might stop taking their medicine in an attempt to cure their loss of sexual appetite.

For some, losing their libido presents no hardship and they are happy to cruise along without having sex and not particularly missing it. Women are more likely to accept a loss of libido than men and tend to find other interests to replace their sexual appetite. Men tend to seek a solution more often and are more likely to be candid about the elderly problems or cause of losing their libido in the first place. For men, the solution might require professional psychological therapy combined with a prescription for Viagra to help with physical inhibition.

Women with elderly problems who wish to recover their libido might try using a sex toy such as a vibrator or cream stimulant to produce tingling and moistness before attempting sex with their partner. Sometimes this works but if the problem is psychological, professional help is nearly always the only solution.

A woman’s aversion to sex might be an adverse reaction to their partner’s increased desires and the ‘turn off’ simply a subconscious effort to limit sexual activity. It might be a more serious psychological barrier caused by traumatic events such as bereavement or divorce or the loss of a lifelong friend. The causes of loss of libido are numbered and varied and it is imperative to pinpoint the problem before a successful solution might be sought.

Occasionally, a person will sail through life without a problem but suddenly experience a drop in libido and consistently experience difficulty thereafter. The reason could be psychosexual and be dealt with by consulting a professional counselor but some patients endure months or years of misery before getting help.

When seeking professional psychological help for dealing with a loss of libido, always check the professional credentials of your chosen analyst. People with sexual difficulties are often a target for untrained opportunists to exploit indiscriminately for personal gain: the therapy they provide is unproductive and could even cause psychological harm.

The Psychological Article on Loss of Libido and How to Get it Back is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Seeking Professional Sex – Pros and Cons

Saturday, September 26th, 2009

Pros and Cons of Boomers seeking Professional Sex

Pros and Cons of Boomers seeking Professional Sex

Elderly Problems by Boomeryearbook.com

A youthful person can take an active sex life for granted. The kind of social life that is prevalent for twenties to thirties tends to provide a happy hunting ground for sexual partners.

For the same people in their fifties and sixties, however, emotional complications and lifestyle could interfere with their desire to find a sexual partner on ‘home ground’. Elderly problems can bring physical limitations to sexual performance and while an elderly man (or woman) might be willing to enjoy a certain sexual freedom with a stranger, the prospect of risking confidentiality with a partner on their doorstep is worrying and inhibiting.

The advantages of seeking professional sex are the probabilities of guaranteed physical satisfaction and the aspect of privacy; being able to separate a social life and enjoy the company of friends without the sexual complications that sometimes compromise a successful friendship with the opposite sex in later life as a result of elderly problems.

Men or women who have enjoyed long and happy partnerships and find they are unable to connect in the same way with a new sexual companion might seek professional sex as a way of dealing with sexual frustration yet still enjoying the company of a new friend socially. This arrangement can fall apart, however, as the relationship progresses and the other person begins to demand a deeper and more physical interaction.

A major drawback with a professional sexual partner is that all physical inhibitions are discouraged and although this can be a bonus of a conventional sexual relationship, transferring such sexual appetites to a new partner can be problematic; few people are able to perform to the standard of a sex professional.

Another problem is that seeking out professional sexual partners can be habit forming and sometimes result in a person wanting to have a more traditional sexual relationship with a new companion but being unable to break their habit of enjoying the anonymity of a detached physical performance.

Allowing a habit of professional sexual activity to develop can cause a number of difficulties and can have the opposite effect to the one originally intended, as a certain ‘isolation’ exists in people with elderly problems whose only sexual satisfaction comes from being in bed with a stranger.

A sexual relationship with someone who is close emotionally can be a comfort as elderly problems cause progressive disabilities. For those with a sex life conducted exclusively outside the home, sex becomes inconsistent with deep affection and therefore something sought only for physical satisfaction rather than emotional comfort.

The other practical downside of professional sex is of course the cost. The price of sexual favors is necessarily high if one is to have the security of knowing a sexual partner is free of disease and that the sexual service takes place in clean and safe surroundings. A common problem for the aging baby boomer or booming senior when seeking professional sex is the lack of freely available funds to finance it and also for people who are in a relationship, being able to spend the money without a partner knowing.

Pros and Cons of boomers seeking professional sex

Pros and Cons of boomers seeking professional sex

The Psychological Article on Seeking Professional Sex – Pros and Cons is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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When Your Partner is Looking like a Sex Addict

Friday, September 25th, 2009

What Psychological Articles Say about our Sex Lives

What Psychological Articles Say about our Sex Lives


Elderly Problems byBoomeryearbook.com

Putting your partner first is always the secret of a successful sex life, whether you are a teenager living on a staple diet of hormones and emotions or a veteran sex addict with years of sexual adventures, literally, under your belt. This consideration is strained, however, when one partner is more sexually active than another, as is often the case in later life, when elderly problems begin to make an appearance.

The raging of an over active libido can make a couple miserable in the bedroom over years of disharmony but might often come to a gridlock when elderly problems step in and force the less active partner to start voicing objections. Quite often the quieter of the two personalities will make allowances for the other; either giving in too often to advances they feel unequal to and ‘faking it’, or those with the more lively libido might withdraw and suppress their own over active affections to allow their partner extended periods of sexual inactivity.

It is unfortunate that while people are leading an active life, they can conquer their difficulties but as they get older they are less able to deal with the problems that result in refusing to have sex. Some couples sweep their sexual differences under the carpet and muddle through regardless. The smart ones seek professional help but some couples experiencing sexual elderly problems find third party professional help distasteful or embarrassing.

The reasons for an inactive libido might be easy to uncover and deal with if early reservations can be overcome. Those who seek help and practical therapy are often able to make a successful compromise with their partners and find their sex lives enriched as a result.

Some women find sex uninteresting once menopause has been successfully survived. An ability to produce children is for some women part and parcel of the sexual experience and without it, the excitement of intercourse disappears overnight in a hot flush! Men might be simply uninterested in sex in later life although their wives continue to jump through hoops to attract their attention and lure them into the bedroom. The problem is often not one of appetite, but of incompatibility and the dissimilarity between a man or woman and the level of their partner’s sexual performance one of poor matchmaking rather than unrequited raging lust.

Whatever the reason behind the problem, elderly problems certainly do not help in the quest for a solution and it should be understood that sexual activity is in no way inhibited by age, provided both partners are healthy. It is a fact that many elderly people are lured into unfortunate and even dangerous sexual liaisons in pursuit of physical satisfaction when they feel ‘let down’ by their partner’s disinterest. It is also a fact that when some of these elderly thrill seekers are being honest, they admit to feeling ‘pushed out’ or ‘rejected’, rather than starved sexually.

Finding a solution to such problems begins with open and honest communication between partners.

The Psychological Article on When Your Partner is Looking like a Sex Addict is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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The Power of Strong Women: Propping Up Your Man in the Bedroom

Friday, September 25th, 2009

Dear Boomer. Is your sex life normal?

Dear Boomer. Is your sex life normal?

Elderly Problems by Boomeryearbook.com

The popular belief is that men age so much more attractively than women and this, at times, is true. Women with elderly problems tend to go through middle age and the booming senior years vainly trying to turn back the clock; ironing out wrinkles with the help of endless beauty preparations and potions, looking for a miracle cure for Father Time. Men, on the other hand, annoyingly sport wrinkles the size of the Grand Canyon and look colorfully attractive; interesting; ‘lived in’.

Age lends a certain personality to good looks. Yet, time can play some cruel tricks and women who were drop dead gorgeous in youth may suddenly have a complexion like old cheese and develop bandy, or loose skinned legs. Men too can have age related physical losses including sagging pectorals, balding heads and sprouting an alarming crop of hair in the most unattractive and un-sexy places. All the physical developments that occur with age present us with new challenges to overcome both socially and in the bedroom.

At the precise moment when we find we have enough time on our hands to spend a few hours in bed in the afternoon with the object of our desire, erectile dysfunction can hit like a thunderclap and ruin the fun for both parties. The awkwardness that suddenly rears its ugly head between two people who until then enjoyed a completely uninhibited sex life without elderly problems can destroy all the passion and delight they have in each other.

For women who have spent a long career helping their man to build up a decent retirement fund and making a valuable contribution to his financial and emotional health, problems in the bedroom can be the last straw and make her unsympathetic in the extreme. Elderly problems of this kind are just the sort of glitch that can send a self respecting, intelligent and sexually healthy woman into the arms of someone quite unsuitable.

Women experiencing elderly problems with their partner that affect their sex lives should consider whether they are being entirely helpful. Any kind of behavior that displays a less than supportive attitude will render a sexual partner completely unable to overcome a problem and set recovery back weeks or months as they try to hide their inability to produce an erection. The next stage is that they will find any excuse not to have sex and from there the downward spiral continues, resulting in impotence and misery; all for the lack of a little gentle patience.

Yes, men are aggravatingly unable to cope with their male pride. Yes, they are generally over opinionated and critical of women’s sexual performance, yet display a complete shutdown when confronted with their own sexual limitations. Men are sensitive; far more so than women. If your man requires some sexual help, have the intelligence to get some advice and do whatever you have to do to help him overcome his difficulties. Find new ways to have sex that do not require erectile function and be patient.

The Psychological Article on The Power of Strong Women: Propping Up Your Man in the Bedroom is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Baby Boomers Guide to Sexual Etiquette

Tuesday, September 22nd, 2009

Baby Boomers Guide to Sex

Baby Boomers Guide to Sex

Elderly Problems by Boomeryearbook.com

All too often you hear of people being criticized for not knowing how to behave. Some people stomp through life’s social minefield without a moment’s hesitation and never seem to step on a bomb: others are blown to bits on the first date and end up being avoided forever. Baby boomers,; being of a mature age, might be expected to have already learned the social etiquette that features going out on dates and enjoying the company of members of the opposite gender.

Not so! Baby boomers back in the dating scene are usually there as a result of having a long term partnership come to an end through illness, death or divorce. Getting back in the saddle can be a scary thing when you are past 45 and the only woman you have “dated” also washed your socks and underwear.

Not knowing how to behave leaves you feeling uncomfortable and lacking in confidence; especially if your date is displaying all the signs of knowing exactly what the rules are and how to manipulate them to his (or her) own advantage!

The first thing top remember is to relax and try to ‘be yourself’. This does not mean you should indulge in bad manners - always supposing your manners are good to start with! It means that if you are a kind and decent person to start with, there is no reason to suppose that you need to put on an act to impress someone and remember: they found you attractive enough to want to date you in the first place, right?

Should dinner and dating eventually lead to a sexual adventure, remember it is never a good idea to drink too much and certainly not a good idea to encourage someone else to do so either. If they cannot find you attractive enough to want sex with you sober, they are certain to regret it when they sober up! Keep things on an even and naturally relaxed keel and you will find things take their course. If not, it was probably not meant to be anyway…

Take the time to ask yourself if sex is what you really want before you embark on the kind of relationship that complicates a great friendship and remember your partner might not have indulged in a sexual relationship with someone for many years. Ask nicely about what they want and bear in mind that certain reservations might take a while to disappear. The prospect of seeing a strange man naked after years of celibacy could turn a very warm blooded baby boomer lady as cold as ice if handled badly!

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Baby boomers who are returning to a sex life after a long absence would probably be well advised to approach the practical side of sex with some caution and this should include the wearing of a condom. Pregnancy might no longer be an issue but sexual health is always important for those getting on in years as much as for younger adults.

The Psychological Article on Sexual Etiquette for Baby Boomers is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Sex and the Widow

Saturday, September 19th, 2009

Alleviating Sexual Elderly Problems

Dear Boomer. Is your sex life normal?

By Boomeryearbook.com

Baby boomer men and women who have enjoyed a lengthy marriage and then suddenly lose their partners can enjoy mature relationships with new partners over many years before they finally throw in the sexual towel and hang up the condoms.

Taking your life in your hands can be scary when it comes to dating new people in maturity but it need not be an unpleasant experience. What on earth would be the point of torturing yourself through an agonizing evening of discomfort when the object of the exercise is to enjoy the moment?

For many baby boomer widows in a position to enjoy a sexual relationship with new people, the problem is not one of enthusiasm but of physical embarrassment coupled with the fear of what people might think and say. It is true that many baby boomer widows live in close communities where starting dating again might be viewed with prurient interest by friends and neighbors. However, that does not mean you should stop doing it!

Immediately following bereavement, many widows experience bizarre sexual fantasies that might include sex with the local postman, sex with a close friend or even group sex. These fantasies usually have to do with an assurance of being ‘alive’ rather than a genuine sexual urge and usually these feelings pass and are replaced by an appetite for a more appropriate sexual relationship.

Some widows deliberately seek out younger men for a variety of reasons: younger men are viewed as being less likely to demand a long term commitment and they can provide a greater physical excitement and fulfilment. Other widows are engulfed by memories and find it difficult to move on to a physical relationship with a man who is not their husband; even feeling guilty, as if they are being disloyal or unfaithful in some way to their deceased partner.

Women who decide to return to dating after bereavement sometimes do so under pressure from friends who think she has ‘grieved for long enough’. The grieving process is different for everyone and most baby boomer widows are old enough to decide independently on whether they are ready to start a physical relationship again.

For widows considering a return to a sexual relationship, it is advisable to remember that the rules have changed somewhat over the past thirty years. Always use a condom to protect against sexually transmitted diseases, always let a good friend know where you are and who you are with and let your date know that your friend knows where you are, pay your own bill and for the first few dates, limit your alcohol intake to a glass of wine so you can drive yourself home should you want to leave early.

Try not to involve family early in a relationship to avoid being judged when the relationship ends and a new one begins: nobody likes to think Mom is turning rampant and most children imagine their mothers are exempt from sexual urges, no matter how old she is!

The Psychological Article on Sex and The Widow is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.
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What Do The Psychological Articles Say About Sex?

Thursday, February 26th, 2009

What Psychological Articles Say about our Sex Lives

What Psychological Articles Say about our Sex Lives

By Boomeryearbook.com

Here’s a surprise that is contradictory to popular belief: most people do not want great sex. This is according to a psychological article in “Psychology Today”. In fact, according to the author, Kathleen McGowan, many people are turned off by the idea because it requires so much attention and emotion that it takes away from the comforting aspect of being close to a sexual partner. It can also awaken fears of rejection by our partner. It usually requires people to be extremely open with each other about sexual desires and fantasies. You have to be willing to communicate exactly what it is that you want from your partner. This can take away from the sheer comfort and loving warmth that is shared during such intimate moments.

According to this same psychological article, people from their 40’s to 60’s specialize in great sex. By the time baby boomers reach this age, they are less likely to feel self conscious and less insecure about themselves and their bodies. This gives them a greater sense of freedom to explore their sexual relationships in more depth. This is primarily true for baby boomer women, as boomer men tend to explore things of the sexual nature in their youth. This is not to say, however, that boomer men do not enjoy great sex as well.

Moreover, some psychological articles and many general physicians state that a healthy sex life is extremely important for the health and psychological health of seniors. Especially since, in some cases, aging has the opposite effect of less self consciousness and, instead, can promote self loathing or embarrassment. You know the saying, “everything falls apart as we age”? Some people become dissatisfied with the way their aging body has changed, feeling less attractive and, as a result, less interested in sex because of feeling ashamed in front of their partner. However, if one can get past these insecurities, there are many healthy advantages to an active sex life all the way into your senior years.

One advantage to a healthy sex life is a longer life expectancy! Yes. The preponderance of psychological articles and research conclude that sex reduces stress and is a great form of exercise. It can also provide companionship to prevent depression due to loneliness. One study, according to an article on webmd.com, suggests that sex may even help prevent colds. Go figure. Who would’ve thought that? It has to do with an antibody that is linked with sex. I’ll be you also didn’t think about sex as a way to lower your cholesterol, did you? It’s one of the great advantages to the cardiovascular exercise that comes along with great sex. Even the hormone that promotes sexual excitement and arousal has been linked with helping to improve better cognition.

Ah, yes, next time you’re in the mood, don’t hold back! Especially don’t hold back if you are among the aging baby boomer population because you never know—it might just help you live longer life. It certainly will guarantee that you have a better quality of life. You’ve got nothing to lose and quite a lot to gain. Don’t believe us at Boomer Yearbook? Give it a try and see for yourself.

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