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How Old is Too Old to Divorce?

Sunday, November 1st, 2009

Is it ever too late to divorce?

Is it ever too late to divorce?


Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems by Boomeryearbook.com

The modern take on marriage, separation and divorce is hard to accept for many elderly spouses who vowed to love, cherish, obey and generally put up with old ‘whatisname’ forever or until hell freezes over…! ‘In my day, when you made your bed, you lay in it forever…’ was the popular attitude taken by most Grandmothers up until around the late sixties, when baby boomers decided free love was more fun.

Making your bed and laying in it forever does have its points, however, especially if you are a baby boomer approaching seventy and you cannot be bothered to cook your own meals!

Married Man Entering His Home

Married Man Entering His Home

The trend in modern society is to try out the marriage bed first, by living with a partner for several years before finally agreeing to tie the knot around the sixth birthday of the fourth child of the alliance; a lifestyle that would shock most Grannies of the sixties were they still around to witness it.

Despite being able to take a free trial run, however, many baby boomers still get it horribly wrong and end up in a marital nightmare for many years before finally deciding enough is enough. The results of an unhappy alliance are, unfortunately, all too evident to family and friends who are close enough to the troubled couple to know how painful an unhappy marriage can be.

The misery of discord might often lead to one or both partners taking lovers and having short or long term affairs with other people. The eternal triangle will result in gossip; intrigue; deceit and usually end in divorce no matter how old the parties involved might be. Deeply unhappy couples sometimes continue to live under the same roof despite their differences but stubbornly refuse to be sociable or even polite over a painful and punishing period of disharmony because they feel they are too old to divorce.

But what age is too old? Sixty? Seventy? Eighty…? Some people, in spite of having numerous sexual encounters in their early years, take their marriage vows seriously enough to avoid separation and divorce well into their late sixties. Knowing the legal option is readily available is comforting but not actually of any practical help if you are stuck in a stale mate with a man or woman you cannot bear the sight of but also cannot bear to part with.

The first step to the divorce court is often arrived at after receiving a friendly shove from a well meaning friend or relative who can no longer stand to watch two lovely people living a nightmare together when they could be happy apart. Age should not be a barrier to separation or divorce for baby boomers prepared to take a responsible and sharing attitude to the legal aspects of parting amicably: stubborn conflict usually means the lawyers get the lion’s share of the finances.

Divorced Man Knocking on door of Former Home

Divorced Man Knocking on door of Former Home

For baby boomers in a long term unhappy marriage, age should not dictate how and with whom one should live.

The Psychological Article on How Old is Too Old to Divorce? is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Sex and the Single Baby Boomer

Saturday, September 26th, 2009

Sex and the Single Boomer

Sex and the Single Boomer


Boomeryearbook.com

Baby boomers were the pioneers of sexual freedom in the sixties; the flag bearers of free love and peace and the promoters of sexual enjoyment for everyone. Sexual confidence in abundance was the order of the day back then and most baby boomers embraced their new sexual freedom with considerable enthusiasm.

Baby boomers are now entering middle age; some are already into their sixties and seventies and sexual emancipation is no longer something shocking but rather it is rightly accepted as normal behavior for most intelligent and socially enlightened members of the community.

Later life brings emotional turmoil as friends and lovers begin to develop a frailty that is not consistent with a rampant sex life. Some baby boomers continue to enjoy a healthy sexual and emotional relationship with their chosen partners but for singles it can be a little more complicated.

Single life in middle age is somewhat different to being single in your early twenties and thirties. For men and women with financial stability following a lifetime of hard work and saving for a pension and security, there is a real risk of being exploited financially by a younger sexual partner.

People with strong family commitments and an affectionate bond with children and grandchildren can run into difficulty when trying to conduct a healthy sex life alongside traditional family values. Grandad is not supposed to have sexual feelings and if he does he is expected to keep them securely under wraps and out of sight of the kids and neighbors! Otherwise he runs the risk of being ‘labelled’.

A single existence in later life prompts a barrage of invitations from well intentioned match makers to ‘fix’ a situation that might actually be perfectly acceptable. A man or woman who has enjoyed a lifetime relationship with a wife or husband now deceased might be quite content to enjoy a single life once the pain of grief has abated sufficiently to pursue some social interaction. A determined match maker can cause havoc in the life of a happy and well balanced single baby boomer.

The social opportunities for aging boomers and elderly single people are now so varied it is impossible not to find hobbies and entertainments if one is so inclined. The days when the elderly were expected to sit quietly in the rocking chair on the porch are long gone to be replaced by club outings, fine dining, day trips, sight seeing expeditions and dancing lessons. Everyone is paid attention to; nobody is sidelined in a social scene that caters for every interest and social events are even categorized in the local papers to exactly pinpoint race, religion, age group, dietary requirements, and sexual preferences.

There is absolutely no excuse for a lonely existence for single baby boomers in later life: the social choices are wide and varied enough to cover every taste and preference, from square dancing to golf. Finding a companion to share your interests might present something more of a challenge – almost as much of a challenge as fighting to stay single!

The Psychological Article on Sex and the Single Baby Boomer is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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The Psychological Article on Loss of Libido and How to Get it Back

Saturday, September 26th, 2009

Loss of Libido and how to get it back

Loss of Libido and how to get it back

Elderly Problems by Boomeryearbook.com

Loss of libido can be distressing, especially in later life when there is some prospect of being able to have some leisure time to pursue a more active sex life. To find a solution to a lack of libido, it is vital to find the cause of losing it in the first place and this will either be psychological or physical. Elderly problems will sometimes account for a loss of libido as a person might be experiencing physical disabilities such as aching joints or arthritis.

A physical problem might sometimes be easier to solve than a psychological disorder. For women who are suffering from a lack of sexual interest there might be an emotional cause such as increased stress resulting from losing the family home and having to down-size, or alcohol abuse will sometimes affect the libido. Prescription drugs such as tranquilizers taken to combat other elderly problems might also have an adverse effect on the patient’s libido, to the extent that someone might stop taking their medicine in an attempt to cure their loss of sexual appetite.

For some, losing their libido presents no hardship and they are happy to cruise along without having sex and not particularly missing it. Women are more likely to accept a loss of libido than men and tend to find other interests to replace their sexual appetite. Men tend to seek a solution more often and are more likely to be candid about the elderly problems or cause of losing their libido in the first place. For men, the solution might require professional psychological therapy combined with a prescription for Viagra to help with physical inhibition.

Women with elderly problems who wish to recover their libido might try using a sex toy such as a vibrator or cream stimulant to produce tingling and moistness before attempting sex with their partner. Sometimes this works but if the problem is psychological, professional help is nearly always the only solution.

A woman’s aversion to sex might be an adverse reaction to their partner’s increased desires and the ‘turn off’ simply a subconscious effort to limit sexual activity. It might be a more serious psychological barrier caused by traumatic events such as bereavement or divorce or the loss of a lifelong friend. The causes of loss of libido are numbered and varied and it is imperative to pinpoint the problem before a successful solution might be sought.

Occasionally, a person will sail through life without a problem but suddenly experience a drop in libido and consistently experience difficulty thereafter. The reason could be psychosexual and be dealt with by consulting a professional counselor but some patients endure months or years of misery before getting help.

When seeking professional psychological help for dealing with a loss of libido, always check the professional credentials of your chosen analyst. People with sexual difficulties are often a target for untrained opportunists to exploit indiscriminately for personal gain: the therapy they provide is unproductive and could even cause psychological harm.

The Psychological Article on Loss of Libido and How to Get it Back is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Glamourous Elderly Ladies and the Dying Art of ‘Chic’

Friday, September 25th, 2009

Audrey Hepburn: "Breakfast at Tiffany's"


by Boomeryearbook.com

Some elderly ladies, despite having elderly problems, are so beautifully groomed. Many of them, of course, learned their grooming routine in the forties and fifties when, rightly or wrongly, it was unacceptable for women to wear jeans or appear in public without a hat and a pair of gloves (winter or summer!) The idea of appearing with a hair out of place was simply ‘not done’. As time marched on, women changed their outlook and their take on appearances changed with it. The fashion trends that dictated formality in the early boomer years dropped away, but some habits die hard.

Busy mothers of today race through the house in the early morning, getting children off to school and gulping half a cup of cold coffee over a mouthful of burned toast as they stuff junior into a car seat, throw on a skirt and a sweatshirt and pile their entire lives into a seven-seater, en route to school, the mall and eventually the child minder, on their way to work. On a good day, they will have one eye on the mirror while pulling a comb through their hair in the car park, mobile held firmly to one ear.

Grandma, however, in spite of her elderly problems, spends more than an hour crimping her hair and painting her nails before selecting a matched set of accessories suitable for day wear at the social center, where she will while away a few hours before heading home for lunch. Somewhere, the standards set by Grandma became lost in the pressured, modern world of here-today-gone-tomorrow fashion and lifestyle.

One of the most endearing qualities of elderly chic is its ability to bridge time. Grandma looks as pretty today in her pink print dress and pearls and she did in 1958 and many ladies with elderly problems have conquered the ravages of time and kept their figures, enabling them to achieve an elegance that escapes many younger women.

In our modern and scheduled existence, a culture of scruffiness and ‘shabby chic’ has taken hold of young women and rendered them, to an extent, masculine in their appearance. Having messy hair and wearing grubby trainers has become, if not ideal – acceptable; especially for busy mothers. When did we let go of our standards? Was it the baby boomer years that ‘did away’ with glamour and made us ‘slobs in our time?’ It is almost too sad to consider that Grandma’s generation were the architects of the death of elegance.

The younger women in our world are, as yet, free of the elderly problems that trouble Grandma in her twilight years. However, in terms of fashion, grooming and appearance, we could all take a leaf out of her book and pay a little more attention to our hair, nails and the shine on our shoes before we set out each morning. Perhaps the white summer gloves and the straw hat are taking things a little far, though!

The Psychological Article on Glamorous Elderly Ladies and the Dying Art of Chic is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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When Your Partner is Looking like a Sex Addict

Friday, September 25th, 2009

What Psychological Articles Say about our Sex Lives

What Psychological Articles Say about our Sex Lives


Elderly Problems byBoomeryearbook.com

Putting your partner first is always the secret of a successful sex life, whether you are a teenager living on a staple diet of hormones and emotions or a veteran sex addict with years of sexual adventures, literally, under your belt. This consideration is strained, however, when one partner is more sexually active than another, as is often the case in later life, when elderly problems begin to make an appearance.

The raging of an over active libido can make a couple miserable in the bedroom over years of disharmony but might often come to a gridlock when elderly problems step in and force the less active partner to start voicing objections. Quite often the quieter of the two personalities will make allowances for the other; either giving in too often to advances they feel unequal to and ‘faking it’, or those with the more lively libido might withdraw and suppress their own over active affections to allow their partner extended periods of sexual inactivity.

It is unfortunate that while people are leading an active life, they can conquer their difficulties but as they get older they are less able to deal with the problems that result in refusing to have sex. Some couples sweep their sexual differences under the carpet and muddle through regardless. The smart ones seek professional help but some couples experiencing sexual elderly problems find third party professional help distasteful or embarrassing.

The reasons for an inactive libido might be easy to uncover and deal with if early reservations can be overcome. Those who seek help and practical therapy are often able to make a successful compromise with their partners and find their sex lives enriched as a result.

Some women find sex uninteresting once menopause has been successfully survived. An ability to produce children is for some women part and parcel of the sexual experience and without it, the excitement of intercourse disappears overnight in a hot flush! Men might be simply uninterested in sex in later life although their wives continue to jump through hoops to attract their attention and lure them into the bedroom. The problem is often not one of appetite, but of incompatibility and the dissimilarity between a man or woman and the level of their partner’s sexual performance one of poor matchmaking rather than unrequited raging lust.

Whatever the reason behind the problem, elderly problems certainly do not help in the quest for a solution and it should be understood that sexual activity is in no way inhibited by age, provided both partners are healthy. It is a fact that many elderly people are lured into unfortunate and even dangerous sexual liaisons in pursuit of physical satisfaction when they feel ‘let down’ by their partner’s disinterest. It is also a fact that when some of these elderly thrill seekers are being honest, they admit to feeling ‘pushed out’ or ‘rejected’, rather than starved sexually.

Finding a solution to such problems begins with open and honest communication between partners.

The Psychological Article on When Your Partner is Looking like a Sex Addict is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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The Power of Strong Women: Propping Up Your Man in the Bedroom

Friday, September 25th, 2009

Dear Boomer. Is your sex life normal?

Dear Boomer. Is your sex life normal?

Elderly Problems by Boomeryearbook.com

The popular belief is that men age so much more attractively than women and this, at times, is true. Women with elderly problems tend to go through middle age and the booming senior years vainly trying to turn back the clock; ironing out wrinkles with the help of endless beauty preparations and potions, looking for a miracle cure for Father Time. Men, on the other hand, annoyingly sport wrinkles the size of the Grand Canyon and look colorfully attractive; interesting; ‘lived in’.

Age lends a certain personality to good looks. Yet, time can play some cruel tricks and women who were drop dead gorgeous in youth may suddenly have a complexion like old cheese and develop bandy, or loose skinned legs. Men too can have age related physical losses including sagging pectorals, balding heads and sprouting an alarming crop of hair in the most unattractive and un-sexy places. All the physical developments that occur with age present us with new challenges to overcome both socially and in the bedroom.

At the precise moment when we find we have enough time on our hands to spend a few hours in bed in the afternoon with the object of our desire, erectile dysfunction can hit like a thunderclap and ruin the fun for both parties. The awkwardness that suddenly rears its ugly head between two people who until then enjoyed a completely uninhibited sex life without elderly problems can destroy all the passion and delight they have in each other.

For women who have spent a long career helping their man to build up a decent retirement fund and making a valuable contribution to his financial and emotional health, problems in the bedroom can be the last straw and make her unsympathetic in the extreme. Elderly problems of this kind are just the sort of glitch that can send a self respecting, intelligent and sexually healthy woman into the arms of someone quite unsuitable.

Women experiencing elderly problems with their partner that affect their sex lives should consider whether they are being entirely helpful. Any kind of behavior that displays a less than supportive attitude will render a sexual partner completely unable to overcome a problem and set recovery back weeks or months as they try to hide their inability to produce an erection. The next stage is that they will find any excuse not to have sex and from there the downward spiral continues, resulting in impotence and misery; all for the lack of a little gentle patience.

Yes, men are aggravatingly unable to cope with their male pride. Yes, they are generally over opinionated and critical of women’s sexual performance, yet display a complete shutdown when confronted with their own sexual limitations. Men are sensitive; far more so than women. If your man requires some sexual help, have the intelligence to get some advice and do whatever you have to do to help him overcome his difficulties. Find new ways to have sex that do not require erectile function and be patient.

The Psychological Article on The Power of Strong Women: Propping Up Your Man in the Bedroom is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Baby Boomer Sources of Self Esteem

Friday, September 25th, 2009

Positive Psychology

Positive Psychology


Elderly Problems by Boomeryearbook.com

Self esteem is a big issue. It is our persona; our perception of ourselves that makes us either like what we are or not, as the case may be. Self esteem can make or break our personalities and our ability to socialize successfully. Baby boomers are famous for being confident and out going and able to see what is right, speaking up forcefully when we decide something is against our principles. Our self esteem, however, can sometimes come between us and our right to be seen and heard in certain situations.

We all know what it is like to walk into a crowded restaurant or party and have the room go quiet as we enter. We want the floor to open and swallow us; we want to disappear conveniently so that we do not have to face our inquisitors. It might have nothing whatever to do with us and be merely a coincidental hush that sometimes occurs in any large gathering. It is our lack of self esteem that makes us feel otherwise and our share of paranoia that feeds our lack of confidence.

As baby boomers enter middle age and late middle age, we sometimes lose our ability to see ourselves as valuable assets in our community and within our family unit. This is nothing to do with a lack in any respect; it is merely the result of feeling vulnerable as our mortality begins to rear its ugly head and stare us in the face!

There are some positive steps that baby boomers can take to help improve their self esteem. Paying some attention to our appearance is always a plus and has the effect of making us feel better, as the process invariably involves eating healthy foods, drinking less, giving up smoking or at least cutting down, and getting some exercise. The physical benefits of a healthy routine can have a domino effect on other areas of life and help a boomer feel positive and motivated.

Baby boomers in a long term relationship have a handy source of self esteem living at home. Making the effort to review the relationship and assessing your own contribution to building on the love and respect you already have can provide enormous comfort and self motivation in later years.

As we enter middle and older age, it is often tempting to remove ourselves from the company of the younger generation. However, this is not always of significant value and a genuine effort that is made to socialize with younger people can have a refreshing effect on self worth, leading you to see yourself as someone with a wide range of ideas. Taking the trouble to learn what is going on in younger circles and making the time to involve yourself in young issues can have a huge impact on your own self esteem.

If you feel your self esteem is at a lower pitch than it once was, take a step back and look at what has changed in your life: knowing the cause of the problem can often be the first step to fixing it.

The Psychological Article on Baby Boomer Sources of Self Esteem is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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Baby Boomer Hobbies and Pastimes: What to Do With Your Time on Retirement

Friday, September 25th, 2009

Elderly Problems   by Boomeryearbook.com

Positive Psychology

Positive Psychology

 

For so many baby boomers, retirement is the light at the end of a long, dark tunnel. For others, retirement represents the tunnel itself – a slow stroll into darkness and the end of life as we know it! It need not be that way: making the transition into a life that excludes regular working hours need not mean you will spend your days knitting socks or (please, no!) stamp collecting.

Baby boomers are resourceful and active members of the community as a rule. For those who have neglected their social duties within their community, retirement represents a great opportunity to take on new challenges for fund raising, charitable work and putting other people first for a change.

Retirement is often a matter of attitude and taking a positive approach to having a great deal more time on your hands than you are used to. For many ladies, having their husbands at home and ‘under their feet all day’ sends them crazy for the first unfamiliar months of retirement but often the strangeness is replaced by euphoria as new hobbies and interests are discovered and along with them a renewed sense of purpose.

Some people find that in retirement their time slowly becomes even more compromised than when they were holding down busy jobs as they begin to take an interest in parties; social gatherings that include sporting interests such as golf and bowls and taking the opportunity to travel. Others finally get around to taking in a new pet they have been longing for. When you are working and out all day, it can be impractical to consider giving a dog a home. Finally, in retirement, a pet is on the agenda and with it all the new responsibilities having a pet means; such as exercising and training.

As baby boomers look down the retirement tunnel, they see either golden opportunities or ill-deserved punishment, depending on their point of view. Taking the attitude that the years ahead are going to be filled with nothingness and trivia will get you into the grave (or the grave of depression) sooner than even you gloomily predicted! Put some rose colored spectacles on and make some positive inquiries about how you are going to utilize your time. Make the presumption early on that your time is valuable, because it is!

For baby boomers with a limited imagination, there are clubs and societies for newly retired ladies and gents with an appetite for activity and plenty of life left in them, with a wealth of suggestions on how to learn new skills and make new friends while you are doing so. Find one of them and spend your retirement in fulfilment and satisfaction, instead of moping about the career that is now behind you.

Stamp collecting and macramé classes might understandably not be for you. If you are active and interested in new things, your retirement should offer every chance to explore new horizons and social opportunities.

The Psychological Article on Baby Boomer Hobbies and Pastimes: What to Do With Your Time on Retirement is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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The Psychological Article Baby Boomer Guide to Somatic Experiencing – navigating beyond trauma

Friday, September 25th, 2009

Elderly Problems by Boomeryearbook.com

Foundation for Human Enrichment: Undischarged Trauma

Foundation for Human Enrichment: Undischarged Trauma

Somatic Experiencing: Low Nervous System
Balanced Nervous System
Healthy Nervous System

Healthy Nervous System

What is somatic experiencing? It is a process by which physical and psychological problems are healed by dealing with a person’s body sensations – or somatic experiences. This form of therapy was first introduced in 1997 by Dr. Peter Levine in his book Walking the Tiger. The premise of this form of therapy is rooted in studying (and later replicating) wild animals and their ability to negotiate and come out of life threatening situations. These wild animals seem to have mastered the skill of avoiding traumatization by being highly adaptive in their approach to life-threatening occurrences – this is the key to healing the symptoms of various physical and mental trauma-based problems.

The practice revolves around the theory that trauma tends to throw the autonomic nervous system (ANS) off its normal self-regulatory processes and that the procedures of Somatic Experiencing can reinstate the autonomic nervous system’s balance. A balanced nervous system will exude resilience, openness, a sense of mastery, emotional stability and the ability to be fully present. On the other hand, a dis-balanced and trauma-inflicted nervous system would exude symptoms of anxiety, chronic pain, sleeplessness, hostility, rage, depression, lethargy etc.

Somatic Experiencing is generally helpful, for two types of trauma – developmental trauma and shock trauma. Where shock trauma is caused by a single traumatic occurrence such as a war, a natural disaster or a road accident; developmental trauma tends to grow on a person (usually during childhood) – children who undergo a disturbing relationship with a parent or who receive little or no attention and appreciation, are prime examples of developmental trauma.

Somatic experiencing is all about healing the effects of traumatic events through heightened bodily awareness. The techniques are based on an exploration into why wild animals are never really traumatized despite the ever-looming threats that come with living in the wild. This understanding has unlocked the long-standing questions about trauma that mystified both laymen and professionals. Somatic Experiencing gives us the tools, techniques and steps by which we can free ourselves from the chains of the past and realize our fullest potential – something desperately sought by most baby boomers.

Baby boomers in particular will find great value in investing time, effort and money in understanding and practicing Somatic Experiencing. As a baby boomer it can help you heal all kinds of traumas – whether you are an ex military person who is trying to overcome the trauma of being in a war or whether you are a baby boomer who is trying to put the pieces of your life together after a broken relationship. The best thing about Somatic Experiencing is that it does not require any form of medication – somatic experiencing is a mix between bodywork and talk therapy aimed at heightening awareness of the physical body, breathing, sensations and their accompanying negativities.

Baby boomers are most likely to have a storehouse of feelings and emotions buried in their bodies – even though these feelings and emotions may have been long forgotten they still continue to shape and define our limitations and capabilities. Somatic Experiencing helps us navigate our way out of this maze.

The Psychological Article Baby Boomer Guide to Somatic Experiencing – navigating beyond trauma is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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Baby Boomer Guide to Somatic Experience and Traumatic Healing

Friday, September 25th, 2009

Foundation for Human Enrichment: Undischarged Trauma

Foundation for Human Enrichment: Undischarged Trauma

Somatic Experiencing: Low Nervous System
                                    
Healthy Nervous System

Healthy Nervous System

Elderly Problems by Boomeryearbook.com

Trauma comes to us all in some form and at some time – usually when we are least able to cope with it! Trauma for baby boomers usually entails loss of a long term partner, financial difficulties, a fall or injury, adjustment to retirement, divorce or sometimes an unfortunate combination of one or two of these ghastly experiences at the same time which can cause depression, addiction and stress.
Somatic healing can help with all of these difficulties but it can also help with physical complaints as well as emotional ones. The process of somatic healing entails hypnotic therapy. During the process, the therapist teaches the patient how to master the art of hypnotic movement. The body’s muscles are ‘instructed’ to move in such as way as to heal injury. Amazingly, muscle tone is restored along with flexibility and some of the most serious injuries can be treated successfully.
The interesting part of somatic healing is that the patient learns to control the body movements required to heal itself, eventually moving on to self-therapy. The conscious mind moves over to allow the body to heal by ‘remembering’ the conditions required for optimum healing. The process is interesting to baby boomers with a vast collection of aches and pains to practice on!
Somatic healing involves a learning process which begins with being put into a light trance to enable the body to be submissive to the gentle handling required by the therapist. The process is usually painless and not in the least unpleasant.
As the process continues, the patient will be ‘returned to the scene’ of whatever accident or event that caused the injury. The body will assume the position it was in when the injury occurred and the patient might cry or display whatever emotion occurred at the time. Eventually the body returns to its calm state, the patient’s limbs will straighten out and the process will be over. The session is invariably followed by a feeling of extreme calm and pain free euphoria.
Somatic healing can produce dramatic results in an afternoon or require several sessions over a period of time. The healing process may be approached by a person in search of a pain solution sustained by recent, acute injury or it may be the answer to the long term pain of sciatica. For baby boomers, the possibilities cover a wide range of ailments and disorders that might be corrected through the somatic healing process.
Somatic healing has been practiced in China for many hundreds of years. The effects of somatic healing on patients suffering serious injury is remarkable and there are hundreds of success stories that outline the details of seemingly ‘miracle’ cures, yet they are simply the result of the body’s capability to heal itself. The process is fascinating to baby boomers, especially those who are retired and in a position to devote some time to the study of somatic processes.
When considering somatic healing and therapy, take the time to check out the credentials of your therapist and make sure you make a detailed study of references and background before entrusting your emotional or physical health to a stranger.

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