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Boomers In Love: Some Great Ideas for Valentine’s Day

Sunday, January 11th, 2009

Boomers Valentine

By Boomeryearbook.com

So, you’re no longer a giddy teenager with the option of going to the roller rink and skating figure eights. And you’re not quite the millionaire you’d want to be- so where does that leave you on Valentine’s Day?

When a movie or dinner just doesn’t cut it anymore, how about spicing things up for this February 14?

© Take your partner up to the highest point in your neighborhood and eat breakfast as the sun rises. Renew your commitment to each other with the new dawn.

© Row out to the middle of the lake and share a quiet moment. Collect small pebbles and as you skip them over the water, state something you love about your mate.

© Set up the most private room in your home like a massage parlor, buy massage oils and scented candles. Turn on soft music in the background and surprise your partner with a stress-releasing rubdown.

© Make a full-course meal together from start to finish. Then, using only utensils for one (or none at all) enjoy sharing the meal.

© Re-enact your first date but bring an album of your journey together and a list of ten things you’ve grown to appreciate about your partner.

© Go on a moonlit nature walk and finish the night with a late-night cuddle and some cocoa around a small bonfire

© Hold hands and walk down to the beach for some star-gazing

© Hang sheets and curtains around a room for a movie-theatre feel and rent the movies you both used to love when you first started dating

© Do nothing! Have a personal chef (or a food-savvy friend) come and cook you and your partner dinner; and pay a local talent or two to entertain you for the night.

© Start afresh: go to the local courthouse and renew your vows.

For those of you who still have that giddy teenager feeling because of a new found love, you can:

© Go to your amusement park and be a kid again- ride the Ferris wheel and the tea cups

© Write up a love ransom note (make sure to identify yourself), and in it demand different acts of love you want to be showered with. When they show up at the spot surprise them with things you think they’d love.

© Surprise your significant other by decorating the interior of their car or house with hearts. String them up and let them hang from the ceiling and then write out the things you appreciate about them, things you enjoy about them, even things that amuse you about them, just use your imagination.

© Take the car and take a road trip to a place that’s important to you- like a good restaurant- casual or elegant, or a place from your childhood. Share the memory with your boyfriend/girlfriend and they’ll appreciate you for letting them in. When you get back home you’ll feel a lot closer.

© Go mini-golfing, or any other sport that gets you close to your partner in a non-aggressive way. Let the physical closeness ignite sparks that bedroom intimacy can’t.

All in all, the most important thing you can do on Valentine’s Day is spend time together. Don’t be too busy for your partner, and don’t make plans with anyone else for that day. Remember, a little effort and consideration can go a long way. Of course, you don’t have to wait until Valentine’s Day to do these activities, your significant other will enjoy the moments any day.

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Baby Boomers And The Dating Scene – Have No Fear

Tuesday, December 30th, 2008

By Boomeryearbook.com

There are many Baby Boomers who are single as a result of the death of a spouse or a divorce. They may have been alone for years for a number of reasons, but one of the most compelling reasons is that they are afraid to get ‘out there’ and date again. For many, it’s been decades since they’ve last had to dress to impress and feign interest in the most boring subjects. They’ve lost confidence and think they would not be able to pull off a date and furthermore things have changed much since they last dated.

Here are seven tips to take to get you back on the dating train before you know it.

1) Make sure you are ready. For most, this is probably the hardest first ste. After losing your partner of so many years, how can you even think about looking for another to possibly replace him/her? It is almost inconceivable, right. If you think this way, you’re probably not ready. On the other hand, you may say: My spouse is not coming back and I have to get on with my life. What we had was truly special, but now it’s over and while I cherish those memories, I would like to make new ones with another special person. This is a great sign that you’re ready to start dating.

2) Don’t go looking for your partner. It’s very easy to compare people you meet with your former partner, don’t do it. This is not a healthy way to start a relationship and, in the end, you’ll be very disappointed as you’ll never find him/her. Try to approach the person with an open mind and look for characteristics that you like rather than that are alike your former spouse’s. If you’re unable to do so, you might not be ready for the dating scene.

3) Stick with your peers. Young people make everyone around them feel young as well. For this reason, some Baby Boomers may be very attracted to someone much younger than themselves. While there is nothing wrong with this per se, be sure that you’re doing this for the right reasons. This person should be placed under the same scrutiny your older neighbor underwent before you decided not to take him/her up on the lunch offer. If you simply want to feel young, may I suggest a new, exciting hobby like mountain climbing, speed racing or motorcycling?

4) Go looking for a date in familiar places. If you don’t usually go to bars, do not go to bar to find a date. Chances are you’ll find someone who is nothing like what you expected and the whole experience might but a damper on your enthusiasm for dating. If you go to the library, then look for a date there. You know already that you share at least one similar interest and this can be the subject of the ice breaking conversation.

5) Choose a familiar location for the first date. Going on a first date is stressful enough for anyone, so you don’t want to add to the stress load by being in unfamiliar surroundings. Go to someplace that’s relaxing and not too noisy. If you and your date live in the same neighborhood, go to a local sidewalk café for brunch or lunch. This way you’ll feel more at home and not half as self-conscious as you’d normally feel.

6) Stay in the now. Do not try to analyze your date or his/her behavior before the night’s over. Take time to give him/her a fair chance at winning you over. Listen keenly and ask pertinent questions that show that you understand what’s being said. Don’t get too far ahead of yourself. Enjoy the moments.

7) Look for a friend not a spouse. Do not go on a date looking for another spouse. Try to find a friend first. The person you date may not end up being your spouse, but could make a very, very good friend for many years to come.

Dating can be as much fun as it is scary. It really depends on your attitude towards it. Keep a positive mindset and make sure you know something about the person before going on a date with him/her. Do not make your first date a blind date. It will prove an added source of stress that you really don’t need. Find your own date and go for it. If it doesn’t work out, at least you will have had a good time and possibly gained a good friend.

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Back when the Males Liked Pink, and Today

Thursday, December 11th, 2008

Back when the Males Liked Pink, and Today

Back when the Males Liked Pink, and Today

by BoomerYearbook.com

There can be no other appropriate slogan for the pink fashion fever that hit the male crowd in the boomer years aside from this: tough guys wear pink. No one has ever tried to look back in time and saw their grandfathers in pink. But in fact, pink had seized the pinnacle of its popularity when male boomers started wearing pink.

Color matching, especially between gender groups, had began as early as the 1920s and more significantly, it was decided that pink was the color of masculinity and blue of femininity in the 1940s. The social psychology that made pink suitable for women and blue for men in recent ages was a radical historical shift. Others have explained that the shift was due to the evolutionary preference and taste of both genders. Women, for instance, were said to like reddish things, which makes them like things tinged with pink.

Back when the Males Liked Pink, and Today

Back when the Males Liked Pink, and Today

In spite of some fashion claims, one should never see males wearing pink as a fashion faux pas. After all, the color has a calming effect that everyone finds hard to resist. And the nearer the color is to one’s skin tone; the more appropriate it is to wear pink. In current times, men who have realized the flattering component of pink have grown in numbers. Mix and match are especially fun and easy because pink can blend easily with any color such as grey, black, blue, and tan tones.

There still remains a segment of the male population that feels as if wearing pink is somehow socially inappropriate or worn only by the metro sexual type man looking to make a statement. But the other divide, which is gaining strength in number, have long stopped questioning and enjoy wearing their pink sweaters and shirts, and pink golf trousers. The question is not whether pink is for males or females. Pink is undoubtedly a color for all ages and genders.

On a non- clothing side note of the color pink, I was recently in a local hardware store shopping for wall paint. And what do you think the manager recommended as the most neutral color that works with everything for either a male or female home? Why Benjamin Moore “French Manicure”; a light pink. He told me it works and flatters any décor. It is the new white. Who knew?

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Lack of trust- How to start trusting again?

Tuesday, December 9th, 2008

by BoomerYearbook.com

Lack of trust can kill any relationship. If a partner has cheated in the past or has a habit of lying then the inability to trust them is understandable. In fact in such cases the entire relationship may have to be re-evaluated. However, if one of the partners constantly doubts the other’s fidelity without having any justified reason to do so, then lack of trust is not just unfair to the other person but can also have disastrous consequences for the relationship.

If you find yourself constantly questioning your partner’s affections and motives, have a habit of cross checking their claims and statements with a third person, spy on them for no reason and have frequent arguments over your mistrusting nature, then you may be suffering from a chronic lack of trust. You are probably aware that your lack of trust has nothing to do with your partner; it’s like a bad habit, which has become a part of your personality. But the problem is that your habit probably hurts your partner more than you realize and before you know your relationship will start falling apart right in front of your eyes.

Causes of lack of trust

Your habit of mistrusting people who profess to love you could have its roots in your past. The following are some of the most common causes of this problem:

Emotional hurt—If in any of your previous relationships your partner cheated on you and you felt deeply hurt by the betrayal, it is possible that you moved on to the next relationship, without resolving your feelings. In such a case you might constantly compare your present partner with your ex and use your “lack of trust” as a defense mechanism against heartbreak.

History of betrayal- If you have been too naive and trusting in the past, it’s possible a lot of people may have taken you for a ride. This may have forced you to move to the other extreme of mistrusting anyone who tries to come close to you.

Childhood trauma- The experiences we go through as children play a huge role in shaping our personalities. If as a child you witnessed a parent’s infidelity or a bitter divorce, chances are that you will grow up into a person with a deep mistrust for people who profess to love you.

Conditioning- If a child is brought up by a single parent who was at receiving end of betrayal by his her partner; it’s possible that the parent might have unconsciously passed on generalized negative beliefs about the opposite sex to the child.

Low self esteem- A person suffering from low self-esteem might feel that they do not deserve the attention, care, and concern of anyone. They therefore have problems trusting the positive, healthy, and loving behavior of people around them and their negative self-talk forces them to look for an ulterior motive behind the most sincere actions.

How to start trusting again

If you can identify with any of these problems and want to learn to trust people again, without the constant fear of being taken advantage of, you need to let go of the past and make a fresh start. Practicing positive affirmations is one of the simplest ways to unlearn the old and learn a new way of living.

Positive Affirmations:

Your beliefs are a result of your repeated past experiences which cause conditioned patterns and perceptions. Positive affirmations involve persistently exposing yourself to new ideas, till your mind absorbs them as new internalized belief systems. The following affirmations will help you unlearn old patterns and accept new ideas about life and yourself.

Stand in front of a mirror and repeat each affirmation at least 30-40 times daily. A better idea would be to focus on one affirmation for a week and then move to the next one.

“I love and accept myself the way I am”

“I deserve to love and to be loved”

“It’s safe for me to love people and allow them to love me”

“I feel safe and trust the process of life to bring me the best, because that’s what I deserve”

“I let go of the past and welcome the future with open arms”

Practice these affirmations till they become a part of your new belief system.

When you refuse to trust people you stop life from bringing forth the possibilities of love and happiness that could be in store for you. When you live in fear of being let down, you miss the opportunity to love and feel loved. Give life a chance, after all it’s better to find love and lose it than live without knowing how beautiful love is.

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Dating Younger People – Male and Female Senior Boomers

Saturday, December 6th, 2008

Dating Younger People – Male and Female Senior Boomers

Dating Younger People – Male and Female Senior Boomers

By BoomerYearbook.com

One of the reasons why many senior boomers might find it rather difficult to toss themselves into the dating game again is due to the fact that there are not many people in their age group who are interested in a relationship. Further, there are health factors to consider as the effects of aging kick in.

For the few, however, who are young at heart and would not mind getting back into the game, albeit with someone younger, here are tips that will guide you on your quest for that special someone.

Be yourself

Do not lie about your age, or be self conscious when in public. Be confident, even though you can expect more than a few curious glances to be thrown your way.

Appearance

Always maintain good personal hygiene. Wear clean, well fitting clothes, groom yourself and have your hair cut and styled.

Fitness

Dating is an energy sapping activity. Therefore you will need to get those energy levels up by starting a fitness regime which will have to be complemented by a good diet. Aerobics is a good way of keeping fit and improving your confidence and appearance.

Chivalry

For the male, do the things that you used to do. Pull out chairs, open the door for her, pay the bill and most importantly, buy her flowers.

Act Your Age

Avoid attempting to do things that are not in tandem with your age. Attempting to out drink everyone in a bar or wild dancing is not the right thing for you to do.

Be Prepared

Be open to the fact that your younger date might one day decide to be with someone their own age. Therefore, do not stand in their way. Encourage your younger partner to live to their full potential.

Be the Leader

Whether you are male or female, the younger person will be looking up to you for leadership. Use your experience to offer solutions to challenges. You should, however, avoid mothering or fathering your date as this is not what they are looking for.

For the females, you should let your younger date take up some manly roles.

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Dating someone Younger – Male and Female Baby Boomers

Saturday, December 6th, 2008

Dating someone Younger – Male and Female Baby Boomers

Dating someone Younger – Male and Female Baby Boomers

By BoomerYearbook.com

Did you know that male and female baby boomers date younger people for totally different reasons? This is because life is divided into stages. These stages mean different things to both males and females.

Sexual Peak

For the male baby boomer, the sexual desire at this age will be waning and thus the need for a partner who can boost his confidence levels. Therefore, a relationship with a younger female will require some concessions for both parties. Unlike the female baby boomer relationship with a younger male which can be centered on sex, the relationship between a male baby boomer and a younger female is centered on emotional fulfillment. Other differences between the two relationships are:

Goals

A female baby boomer who has never been married before does not waste time on relationships without clear cut goals. At her age, she has probably had a fair share of marriage proposals thrown her way. The fact that she is single says a lot about her. Therefore, when she decides to date a younger man, it is because she has not found anyone who can meet her expectations within her own age group. That means that the young man should get his act together in the relationship or will be cut off.

For the male baby boomer, dating younger females calls for different rules all together. A female belonging to the echo boomer generation is probably trying to prove herself to the world. She wants to prove that she can take care of herself. She is still developing her adult identity. Less is expected of her at this age.

Best of two worlds

The female baby boomer will date a younger man who can support her decisions in life. One of these decisions may be career support. A younger man will be less likely to be in a hurry to start a family. Dating a younger man provides the perfect opportunity for a female baby boomer to build her career and be in a relationship at the same time.

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Dating outside your religion – Male and Female Senior Boomers

Saturday, December 6th, 2008

Dating outside your religion – Male and Female Senior Boomers

Dating outside your religion – Male and Female Senior Boomers

By BoomerYearbook.com

A good number of senior boomers still consider it taboo to date outside one’s religious affiliation. This prejudice has been driven to new heights by the ever escalating global religious conflicts.

Borderless love

With the advancement of technology, however, the world has become a global village. Finding that special someone is no longer limited by geographical boundaries. The introduction of Internet dating has made it possible for people from diverse backgrounds to meet and fall in love. Different backgrounds mean different cultures, ethnicity and religion.

If you are a senior boomer in search of love, you might be required to step outside your religious comfort zone and meet people from other religions half way. Dating is a game of give and take. Therefore be prepared to roll with the punches.

Steer clear of the Religious Talk

Religion is a very touchy topic to many people. Questioning or criticizing someone’s religious beliefs will most likely set them off. Most people consider this an affront to their very life foundation. It is advisable therefore to veer off the religious talk during the first couple of dates. Overlooking religion will enable both of you to relax and be comfortable with each other. This way, you will be able to judge the person for who they are and not based on their religion. If you find that you enjoy each other’s company then you can gently introduce the religion topic. The good thing is that as senior boomers, religion is not likely to play a key role in your romance. You don’t have to decide on which religious beliefs your children or other family members have to subscribe to since most of them have already chosen their religious paths.

Compromise

Compromise here involves agreeing on which religious holidays you are going to celebrate and where you are going to celebrate them.

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Dating Outside Your Religion – Male and Female Echo Boomers

Saturday, December 6th, 2008

Dating Outside Your Religion – Male and Female Echo Boomers

Dating Outside Your Religion – Male and Female Echo Boomers

By BoomerYearbook.com

With the expansion of our dating boundaries, into our lives come a wide array of beliefs, customs and religions. As a result of this, the echo boomer’s partner options become broader and broader. This, however, creates a situation where by it becomes challenging to find someone with the same beliefs, customs and religious background as the one in which you were raised.

The pros seem to out weight the cons. Dating someone from a different religion, however, is a bit different from dating someone from the same religion as you. The paces that both parties should go through before getting serious include:

Don’t Force Change

For the most part, we all believe that our personal religious practices are the right ones to follow. In a dating relationship, you should never attempt to change your partner’s religious beliefs. Also avoid “preaching” the positives aspects of your religion every time the two of you are together. Your date is more interested in you than your religion.

Continuity

You need to go on practicing what your religion calls of you to do. The fact that you are not allowing your religion to take the lime light in your relationship does not mean you should suppress or do away with it either. Continue doing what you were doing before the two of you met.

Educate

Your religious beliefs are likely to impact on many aspects of your life. The important areas of your life where religion is likely to influence the way you think and act include your personal life, your views on sexuality, childbirth and contraceptives, what you eat, political views, among many others. You can help your partner understand you better by educating him/her on the role of religion in your life.

Open mind

As the cliche goes; failure to listen is a great sin. You should listen to your partner’s opinions and religious beliefs. Keep an open mind and do not consider their opinions, if different from yours, to be wrong. You should respect his/her religious beliefs and practices if you hope to have a successful relationship.

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Dating Outside Your Religion – Male and Female Baby Boomers

Saturday, December 6th, 2008

Dating Outside Your Religion – Male and Female Baby Boomers

Dating Outside Your Religion – Male and Female Baby Boomers

By BoomerYearbook.com

Interreligious dating among baby boomers is a situation which should be approached with sobriety.

Dating someone practicing a different religion from yours can have far reaching effects and consequences in a relationship. This is particularly so if the relationship leads to courtship and then marriage.

There are some important questions which a baby boomer needs to find answers to when dating outside his/her religion. These questions include how the marriage ceremony is going to be celebrated. What religious beliefs and holidays will be celebrated by future step-children? How are you going to cope with the different value systems?

This, however, should not hinder you from pursuing your relationship with that special someone. What matters is how compatible you and your partner are. Interreligious romance need not be negative. All you need to know is learn as much as you can about your partner’s religious beliefs before you talk marriage and living with step-children and their families. Things to avoid when in an interreligious relationship include;

Refrain from passing judgment

It goes without saying that different religions have different rituals and practices. You can bet that these rituals and practices will be “different” from what your religion practices. Different, however, should not be interpreted as odd or wrong. You should be able to rise above your own perception of what is right or wrong and respect your partner’s religious practices.

State Your Dating Objectives from the Word Go

Different religions view dating differently. For this reason, it is very important to state your dating objectives early on when dating someone from a different religion. There are some religions which do not allow couples to date unless their intention is to get married and raise a family. To make sure you are on the same page with your partner and to avoid future disappointments, honesty is important.

Inflammatory Phrases

Avoid using phrases that are too general. These include such phrases like “you people”. When dating someone from a different religion, avoid phrases that seem targeted to his/her religious group.

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Dating Outside Your Ethnicity – Male and Female Senior Boomers

Saturday, December 6th, 2008

Dating Outside Your Ethnicity – Male and Female Senior Boomers

Dating Outside Your Ethnicity – Male and Female Senior Boomers

By BoomerYearbook.com

Inter-ethnic relationships have been viewed as taboo for a long time. Those who were old enough to date during the 1950s can attest to this fact. During this period, engaging in a relationship with someone outside the race/ethnic group – Caucasian – was viewed with disdain and was simply unacceptable.

Recent times, however, do not allow us to live in our ethnic cocoons. Major steps have been made to eliminate racial bias. As a result, we now live in a world where interracial/inter-ethnic relationships are accommodated and not frowned upon.

As unbelievable as this may sound, there are rules which you should adhere to when dating outside your ethnicity.

Self Examination

The first thing you should do as a senior boomer in a mixed ethnic relationship is to examine and evaluate yourself. Many of the ethnic related prejudices we hold are so deeply ingrained within us that we may be unaware that we hold such prejudices. Knowing which cultural stereotype you hold about your partner’s culture is the first step towards eliminating them.

Information is power

Do research on your partner’s culture. The best way to do this is for the two of you to prepare a questionnaire with relevant questions pertaining to your cultures.

Education

You are what you are because of your history and ethnic background. This means that your ethnicity affects a lot of areas in your life. From the music your like, the clothes you wear, your political affiliations, your views on many issues including marriage, child rearing, and many more. For this reason it is important to educate your dating partner on how your ethnicity relates to you. This way, your partner will be able to understand you better.

Equal Partner

Always treat your dating partner as an equal partner in the relationship. Avoid actions which may be interpreted as an attempt to suppress them or their culture. Most importantly, you should not make them appear like souvenirs, trophies, or tokens.

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