Archive for the ‘Baby Boomers Psychological Articles and Coaching’ Category

5. Fitting In With Younger Mothers: The Older Mother’s Dilemma by BoomerYearbook.com

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

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This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur through parenting in later life; the pitfalls and advantages of pregnancy, birth and raising a family and coaching solutions available: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems

By Boomeryearbook.com

Baby boomers who decide to open a new branch of the family later in life face a number of problems other than the obvious physical difficulties that can present in the average woman in her forties who puts her body through a process traditionally reserved for younger people.

An older lady contemplating a new baby will perform a number of searches online into the pros and cons of having a baby and be dismayed to find that there are few pros and plenty of cons to terrorize a prospective mother, with all the risks of Downs Syndrome, miscarriage and complications and a plethora of other possible drawbacks outlined in depressing detail. You need to reach Google Page 3 before finding an encouraging forum!

A woman in later life will have developed intellectual and social tastes that extend beyond the realms of changing diapers and choosing nursery wallpaper. Although most baby boomers who are new mothers are pleased to set their own entertainment to one side while their new baby is very young, toddler groups and other activities designed to attract mothers with mutual interests can represent a gap in social interests.

Baby boomers can sometimes feel like social outcasts when thrown into a circle of mothers in their twenties and early thirties with a wealth of other hobbies and interests in common apart from the obvious link of being mothers to young children. Psychological articles that investigate the difficulties experienced by older parents see this feeling of being excluded as non productive and could even be a contributing factor to baby blues, or post natal depression.

As baby gets older, the older mother feels even more outside the normal circle of younger parents, as children begin to socialize. Some children quite innocently associate older ladies with grandparents and it is not unusual for them to make an assumption that their friend’s mother is actually a grandma. It can be embarrassing for an older mother when such mistakes occur in the company of other adults as apologies are made, making older Mom feel even more elderly!

Some people are quite happy to be different and be set apart from others but for many older mothers, part of the pleasure that comes from being a new mother is closely connected with the social link to be enjoyed with other new mothers and their children. Psychological articles recommend that mothers in this situation seek groups that provide social activities for older mothers, to help minimize feelings of exclusion before moving on to a more varied range of parental ages and interests.

Whatever age baby boomers are, pregnancy and birth in later life can offer a range of minuses and pluses but no more or less than at any other time of life, providing there is enough love to go around and always remembering that Mom’s health and well being will require a little more attention if she is to remain fit enough to chase a two year old around the supermarket…

The Psychological Article on Fitting In With Younger Mothers: The Older Mother’s Dilemma is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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4. Beautiful Women and Their Beautiful Daughters by BoomerYearbook.com

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

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This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur through parenting in later life; the pitfalls and advantages of pregnancy, birth and raising a family and coaching solutions available: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems

By Boomeryearbook.com

Baby boomers will be interested to learn that beautiful women are getting even more beautiful, according to psychological articles by researchers into genetics and the effects of the changing World environment on the way human beings evolve.

According to evolutionary psychologist Satoshi Kanazawa, of the London School of Economics, good looking and sexy ladies have more children, unsurprisingly, probably because men would rather go to bed with a woman who is attractive than waste their affections on someone with less palatable looks. Lady baby boomers with good looks that have lasted well into their forties will be more likely to become pregnant simply because they will be offered more frequent opportunities for sex: it figures.

Even more interesting, however, is that these ladies are producing more daughters than sons. In fact, beautiful women are 26% less likely to have sons than daughters. The daughters favor their mother’s looks and so the pattern of pretty women is repeated, and so more and more beautiful women are appearing.

Annoyingly, men’s looks seem to be irrelevant: as according to psychological articles good looks make no difference to the number of children they produce and so evolution is little affected by their appearance.
In men, by contrast, good looks appear to count for little, with handsome men being no more successful than others in terms of numbers of children. This means there has been little pressure for men’s appearance to evolve.

Beautiful women do seem to produce beautiful children and especially beautiful daughters: Ivana Trump; Bianca Jagger; Goldie Hawn; Joan Collins – all have produced beautiful daughters and the beautiful daughters now seem to be in the process of producing even more beautiful daughters… For the sake of illustrating the point, celebrities with a collection of beautiful daughters might only produce one son with insignificant looks and lower intelligence than his sisters (with the certain exception of the Baldwin baby boomers who are all quite tasty and the Douglas dynasty of baby boomers who produce sexy sons regularly- every twenty years or so)

As the World gets better looking, a few unfortunates continue to scare the horses, which is just as well for the survival of certain professions, notably the cosmetic surgeons, dermatologists, beauticians, and stylists whose role is to primp; trim; tuck and suck us into conformity and make us all look exactly like Angelina or Demi or Paris (okay, perhaps not Paris…)

It seems unfair that so many beautiful women are blessed with attributes that single them out as exceptionally endowed, with gorgeous legs; glossy hair; pert breasts and perfect skin, while other women have absolutely no redeeming “cosmetic” features and struggle through life with frizzy hair; buck teeth; hairy legs and acne. Ah but maybe evolution has taken the problem in hand as “unattractive” women seem to be a dying breed…., And since psychological articles continue to observe that women’s looks affect their ability to achieve, both professionally and personally, perhaps it is just as well that we ladies are becoming better looking as the years go by.

The Psychological Article on Beautiful Women and Their Beautiful Daughters is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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3. Here Come The Boys: Gay Men Having Babies Through Surrogacy by BoomerYearbook.com

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

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This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur through parenting in later life; the pitfalls and advantages of pregnancy, birth and raising a family and coaching solutions available: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems

By Boomeryearbook.com

The subject of gay men having children is one that draws definite opinions everywhere – you are either for it or you are not and baby boomers, like everyone else, are divided on the issue.

Psychological articles debate people’s conflicting opinions that gay men, while being free to pursue their sexual preferences to the extent that they can co-habit, socialize freely and get married if they so desire, may not be best able to provide an emotionally and socially healthy environment in which a child can develop normally. The issues pro and against are commonplace discussion yet certain factors seem to be given “extra weight” in those who think that being a gay male couple may affect the likelihood of making successful parents.

Psychological articles contend that cultural influences and geography appear to make a difference in determining whether a child might flourish happily in a gay home environment. Baby boomers who are gay and who reside in New York or San Francisco where the gay community is vast and accepted might raise a child within that community and the arrangement would be welcomed and readily accepted in the school playground.

However in a rural, more insulated community in a traditional part of the US, psychological articles inform us that such acceptance, rightly or wrongly, might not be forthcoming, rendering the child a target for every school bully with an eye for a victim. Therefore, psychological articles warn that the social vulnerabilities of children brought up in alternative family units cannot be dismissed when considering whether gay men make suitable parents. Nonetheless, whether they should or not, many gay male couples are having children and one route is to pursue having children through surrogacy.

Surrogacy can lend ‘cosiness’ to the experience of becoming a parent by proxy that adoption cannot offer. Adoption produces a child as a complete package, actually, and the process of pregnancy and birth is sidestepped altogether as the adoptive parents have no involvement. Surrogacy is a joint effort and the new parents can make all the preparations that accompany the arrival of a new baby, along with the requisite nine month wait for the little bundle to appear. Psychological articles underline that the process ‘normalizes’ the experience for gay couples whose desire for children until a few short years ago seemed an impossible dream.

Psychological articles have confirmed that when given a chance, gay couples, both men and women; make dedicated ‘hands-on’ parents with responsible attitudes toward education, health and social development for their children. Some gay men are ‘heterosexual converts’ whose past life included raising children now living with ex partners and whose paternal credentials are in fact excellent.

In recent years there has been speculation that gay couples produce gay children but in fact there are no real facts from mainstream psychological articles to support this assumption and there is evidence that gay couples can produce well balanced, emotionally healthy children who are heterosexual yet deeply attached to their gay parents.

Gay echo boomers considering having children through surrogacy certainly have hurdles to face. From the child’s point of view, the issue seems to be whether one’s parents are loving, affectionate and attentive rather than heterosexual, gay, or even bi-sexual. Conversely, heterosexual couples might produce gay children but their parenting skills or home environment is not questioned or thought to be in any way responsible for their child’s sexuality. Psychological articles inform us that having a two parent, happy home is a recipe for success-and that the sexuality of the parents is not a factor in producing well adjusted children. While some boomer grandparents may have concerns, the psychological literature shows concerns to be unfounded.

The Psychological Article on Here Come The Boys: Gay Men Having Babies Through Surrogacy is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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2. The Echo Boomer and Getting Pregnant – The Options by BoomerYearbook.com

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

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This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur through parenting in later life; the pitfalls and advantages of pregnancy, birth and raising a family and coaching solutions available: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems

By Boomeryearbook.com

It is a sad fact that by the time a woman realizes that either she or her husband have a fertility problem, she may be already in her thirties and anxious that she has only a few short years to produce a child if she wants to enjoy a relatively young parenting experience. In psychological articles, the stress of infertility is widely documented and causes further problems for people who should be physically able to conceive yet cannot.

Once a woman decides she wishes to have a baby, she will dispense with contraception and likely make the assumption she will become pregnant – well – shortly. When this does not happen, a mild concern might prompt a medical check followed by a period where she persuades her partner to do the same. Should no physical reason be found for their inability to conceive, a concentrated effort is made to have sex at certain propitious times, which can sometimes result in wrecking the spontaneity of a previously excellent sexual relationship.

Baby boomers going through the process might then give up thinking about the problem for a while, hoping it will go away. When it does not, the woman might become more seriously distressed at not getting pregnant and the stress will further affect her general well being and her chances of conceiving.

For baby boomers who find that pregnancy cannot or will not happen, there are other options that might be tried but those who have no physical impairment to prevent pregnancy might find that fertility drugs can produce a multiple birth. Twenty to 60% of women who use fertility drugs successfully conceive but there are some side effects such as headaches; vaginal dryness; hot flushes and cramps. Sometimes these drugs may be combined with artificial insemination to achieve a pregnancy. Artificial insemination alone can cost around $700. Drugs in pill form are not too costly but injections can cost up to $5,000 per month.

Should there be a physical reason for being unable to conceive, surgery is an option to remove blockages in fallopian tubes or fibroids or ovarian cysts. The disadvantage of surgery is that it can be costly. IVF (In Vitro Fertilization) involves eggs being removed from the ovaries, fertilized with sperm (from the partner or a donor) in a laboratory and the resulting embryo being placed in the uterus. The procedure is extremely expensive (up to $15,000) and of course there are no guarantees of success. Baby boomers wishing to conceive have been known to try this procedure repeatedly before finally achieving success and some never do.
There is also the option of GIFT (Gamete Intrafallopian Transfer) where the egg and sperm are injected into the fallopian tubes so the baby boomers’ embryo can develop naturally, costing around the same price as IVF – thus, psychological articles note that pregnancy can be expensive and can cause extreme stress as a result of financial hardship.
Should all else fail, there is the possibility of surrogacy where a third party carries a child on behalf of the expectant parents. Extreme care should be taken when approaching surrogacy that the procedure is covered by legal contract and all parties rights and responsibilities are clearly delineated.

The Psychological Article on The Echo Boomer and Getting Pregnant – The Options is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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1. The Late Edition – Baby Boomers Becoming New Parents by BoomerYearbook.com

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

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This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur through parenting in later life; the pitfalls and advantages of pregnancy, birth and raising a family and coaching solutions available: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems

By Boomeryearbook.com

Finding yourself pregnant in your late forties can be something of a surprise – comparable to being hit by a freight train. Some baby boomers who are trying to get pregnant at that age are of course delighted to be in the family way but others are simply the victims of carelessness and wish they had not consumed quite so much wine on Halloween!

Psychological articles take a surprisingly casual view of pregnancy in later life and there are few, if any, speculations made on the mental health of a woman who should be planning for her retirement launching herself instead into a world of diapers and teething rings.

For many baby boomers soon-to-be-parents, the late addition to the family is the last in a series of great kids now grown up and at college or raising their own children. In a family where there are children now grown, the last of the litter often suffers as a result of being an ‘only child’ - yet not – the older fraternity had brothers and sisters to play with and fight with but the youngest, without other children at home, must find their own amusements.

Any woman who is facing her first pregnancy in her forties could be facing some trouble. Before Junior makes an appearance it is absolutely vital to stay fit, eat healthily and get plenty of exercise to get middle aged muscles in shape for the ordeal of late pregnancy and birth and avoid all the nasty complications that can be associated with giving birth as an ‘elderly primate’, as clinics so thoughtfully describe older mothers. The aches and pains of pregnancy experienced by younger women are tripled for baby boomers entering motherhood late in the game, so it is important to take care.

Be prepared for tactless remarks such as, ‘Is that a hernia?’ or, ‘I didn’t know women your age could still get pregnant’, or even, ‘Honestly, Mom, how could you!?’ Baby boomers have a cosy reputation for settling down to play golf and attending bridge games and bake sales in later life – nobody over the age of twenty expects their parents to still have reproductive organs so the prospect of a new baby brother or sister is usually something of a shock.

The secret of a happy pregnancy late in life is to stay fit, stay focused and look forward to the bonus of an entirely different parenting package. Children of older parents enjoy all kinds of benefits as a result of Mom and Dad having some work experience and older parents tend to be calmer, more grounded and spend more time with their child. Psychological articles find that older parents are better able to make sensible decisions on welfare, both physical and educational and they are more likely to appreciate the importance of a healthy diet and appropriate social opportunities for their child.

For baby boomers brave enough to enter parenthood in their older years, a late life baby can bring enormous joy and fulfilment - and an excuse to watch Disney movies, go to theme parks, and remember that youth need not be wasted on the young! Above all, a change of life child can be a blessing and not considered an elderly problem.

The Psychological Article on The Late Edition – Baby Boomers Becoming New Parents is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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Time May be of the Essence in Dealing with an Obsessed Person: When in Doubt -Get Professional Help by BoomerYearbook.com

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

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This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur through obsession; the dangers of leaving an obsession untreated and the coaching solutions available: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems by Boomeryearbook.com

Obsession might take the form of an unrealistic and over fantasizedromance or be an intense passion for an object or pastime. Usually, obsession is associated with the relationships that exist between people and the imbalance of emotions between them, leaving one person perhaps deeply involved emotionally and the other completely detached. Despite the warning signals that flash early in a friendship where a person is obsessed, some friendships progress into a relationship and even into a marriage, without the obsession being properly dealt with.

Baby boomers with experience of obsessed people will know how difficult it is to deal with someone who will just not take no for an answer. Sometimes, new friendships are formed in a haze of alcohol and the wrong interpretation is placed on the depth of a new friendship. Whatever the circumstances of an obsession being developed, the results are alarming for the person who is the object of the obsession.

Psychological articles show us that the personality traits of someone who is susceptible to obsession might be varied but somewhere in the recesses of an obsessive personality, there is usually evidence of childhood rejection or past trauma that prompted an unrealistic desire for intense affection. When that affection is not reciprocated, the obsessed feels rejected and begins to feel offended; angry; possibly vengeful and generally not very friendly.

An obsessed personality can display an alarming cunning when in the grip of a particular program of obsession. To make things worse, baby boomers who are the victims of an obsessed personality might have made innocent welcoming gestures of friendship at the beginning of such an association. Psychological articles that have profiled obsessed people show that when their friendship is no longer welcome, the news might be received in the worst possible way, prompting all kinds of vindictive behavior ill deserved by the victim.

When an obsession is affecting your life, it is imperative not to humiliate or draw attention to the obsessed person in public. Rejection is difficult enough to cope with in private and a public demonstration will only serve to alienate and anger the person who is obsessed and possibly turn their obsession from a passive to a more active program of harassment. Take the obsessed person’s feelings into account when trying to deal with obsession but on no account make any encouraging gesture such as inviting the person into your home. Baby boomers who are still employed outside the home might be the victim of obsession at work, in which case there is always the option of seeking help from the Human Resources Department who are trained to deal with workplace intrusive personality clashes.

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The important thing to remember is that obsession is closely related to fantasy and often the obsessed person will have a totally inaccurate impression of the person they have fantasized about. Taking the fantasy out of the mind of an obsessed person is a matter for professionals and should not be ‘dabbled in’ by baby boomers whose most often inexperience does not equip them to deal with the complex structure of a potentially dangerous disorder. Please remember that obsessive behavior can have serious or even fatal consequences. Forewarned is forearmed. If you find yourself in this uncomfortable position, get professional help!

The Psychological Article on Dealing with an Obsessed Person
is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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How to Overcome Obsession: A Boomers Guide by BoomerYearbook.com

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

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By Boomeryearbook.com

This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur through obsession; the dangers of leaving an obsession untreated and the coaching solutions available: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

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Obsession is destructive, unproductive and unpleasant, even when the person or thing one is obsessed about is readily available. Obsession is unrewarding and often leaves the obsessed person feeling inadequate; rejected; guilty; unfulfilled and deeply unhappy. Baby boomers who are experiencing obsessive interests should seek professional help to overcome this problem-and quickly; as time is of the essence in overcoming obsessional ideology. However, pathological obsession may oftentimes be hidden while in mild cases, the symptoms of obsession are easier to recognize.

Psychological articles show us that obsession typically begins on a quiet scale but escalates quickly to become all consuming and uncomfortable. The mind responds to an obsession by throwing thoughts of the person or thing that is the subject of the obsession into focus constantly: thoughts of the person or thing are never far away and in time, the obsessed person is unable to think of anything else. The obsession can be anything from a person, or an addiction such as pornography, or a material possession.

At the beginning of an obsession, the obsessed person believes they are in control of their desire to see, touch or be in proximity to the things or person they are obsessed with. They ‘toy’ with their enjoyment of the emotion and might even see rejection or their inability to have close contact with their obsession as something quite different. Further into an obsession, however, deeper feelings emerge which leave the obsessed person feeling they are no longer in control. At this stage, the person might remove themselves from the thing they are obsessed with and try to ‘turn their back’ on their need for close contact. Inevitably, this will fail and continue to fail unless the obsessed person admits to the problem and gets help.

Baby boomers might indulge in an obsession for some time before coming to the conclusion that help is needed. If the obsession is with a material object, it is demonstrably easier to deal with the problem. If the obsession is for a person a remedy can be more difficult as it is necessary to deal with outside personalities and influences when trying to identify the reasons behind the obsession. Either way, professional guidance is always the most effective resource and the earlier the better to achieve a lasting and satisfactory result.

Psychological articles outline the dangers of obsession quite clearly: a continued and encouraged interest in the item or person at the center of an obsession will simply propagate disaster and make the obsession more pronounced and intense and consequently more difficult to overcome.

Baby boomers with a passionate interest in a hobby or deep and healthy affection for another person should not confuse this productive and enriching emotion with obsession. Obsession is all consuming and usually destructive, closely related to addiction, with the ability to wreck your life and throw every healthy and positive emotion into shadow in pursuit of gratifying this all encompassing and powerful urge.

Baby boomers who suspect they are in the grip of an obsession should seek immediate help which is available in the form of professional psychological counseling and might include sessions of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or other forms of treatment to identify and eradicate the unpleasant effects of this intrusive disorder.

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The Psychological Article on How to Overcome Obsession is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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Boomers Guide to Wicked Obsession-Stalkers and Talkers by BoomerYearbook.com

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

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This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur through obsession; the dangers of leaving an obsession untreated and the coaching solutions available: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur through obsession; the dangers of leaving an obsession untreated and the coaching solutions available: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation

A mild obsession with a particular person should not cause undue distress: a destructive obsession can annihilate lives and result in chaos and discord both for the obsessed and the unfortunate victim of their obsession. Baby boomers are as susceptible as anyone else to the attentions of someone with an obsessive interest.

Recognizing an obsessive interest is usually quite easy but unfortunately, the person who is obsessed might harbor an unhealthy interest for some time before their intention to gratify their emotional needs breaks the surface. This makes life difficult for the victim, as they are often made aware of the problem far too late for an effective solution to be put in place.

One of the more difficult scenarios where obsession can be most destructive for baby boomers is in the workplace; especially when the obsessed person is senior to the victim. Many allegations of sexual harassment made in a work environment are the result of an unhealthy obsession. Psychological articles tell us that an inability to properly interpret disinterest is often a feature of an obsessed personality and when issues of seniority complicate matters, the victim will often inadvertently encourage the attentions of an obsessed admirer, simply because he or she is afraid to offend the boss. Luckily, modern tribunals and grievance procedures have improved matters immeasurably for workers experiencing problems of this type.

Obsession can occur within all generations, not only baby boomers but also teenagers and even people in extreme old age. The intensity of a destructive obsession can turn a regulated and orderly life into a nightmare in a very short time and the victim can be driven to nervous collapse before a satisfactory solution is found.

Usually an obsession with another person begins with a small gesture of friendship which is misinterpreted as sexual interest, or fantasized into such. Small contacts are engineered by the obsessed person, such as chance encounters in the street; showing up unexpectedly at a social venue the victim frequents regularly; progressing to letters; notes; emails; phone calls at work and at home and ultimately there is a showdown, when the victim will angrily insist on being left in peace. Psychological articles note that this is where the real danger of obsession begins, as rejection takes over from affection and the obsessed person starts a campaign of harassment.

Baby boomers who have been the victims of obsession rarely extend friendship to strangers without checking out their credentials carefully. Obsessive interest can spark a program of ugly confrontation that might sometimes culminate in legal action, usually because the obsessed person sees their bombardment of interest as friendly affection and they are unable to identify their behavior as obnoxious, stalking or threatening in any way.

When making new friends, it is always a good idea to make some precautionary inquiries before giving someone your personal details at home or at work and making that fatal gesture that could be misunderstood and escalate into a dangerous, ugly obsession.

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The Psychological Article on Wicked Obsession – Talkers and Stalkers is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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Boomers Guide to Obsession and Love – The Difference by BoomerYearbook.com

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

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Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems

By Boomeryearbook.com


This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur through obsession; the dangers of leaving an obsession untreated and the coaching solutions available: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Baby boomers, with an expansive and varied experience of life behind them, have more often than not had their fair share of romantic experiences along with a few romantic disasters they might regret in later life.

Psychological articles show us that from time to time, the signals we send to people who find us attractive are misinterpreted and our feelings are misrepresented by the impression we give someone else. Alternatively, another person might simply ‘read too much into’ an act of friendship or a gesture of consideration. In the confusion, certain assumptions are made and before we know it, we are knee deep in some awful and embarrassing romantic illusion we find it hard to escape from without damaging someone’s pride and sensitivity.

The perimeters we baby boomers set for new acquaintances are sometimes a little too flexible and we inadvertently welcome attentions we actually had no intention of encouraging. Some people, on the other hand, are just stupid and blunder through life walking on the broken glass left behind from a series of over intense and shattered love affairs because they were not considerate enough to make their motives clear at the beginning of each association.

The signals we send at the beginning of romantic interludes set the tone for the relationship we hope to have. For example, lady baby boomers in their late fifties or early sixties with absolutely no desire to have sex with a new date would be sending the wrong signals to a man if they showed up wearing an outfit that revealed half their cleavage and most of their underwear! Taking offence at his advances later in the evening would seem unreasonable in view of the clear and unmistakeable message they “seemed” to have be sending at the outset. On being rejected, the man could well feel small, foolish and furious, leading to anger.

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Psychological articles explore the interpretations of signals and messages we give out and often we are unable to receive signals correctly when we are in the grip of obsessive interest in a member of the opposite sex: disinterest is seen as ‘playing hard to get’; stand offs are seen as small demonstrations of independence; refusals to respond to phone calls and emails are merely glitches and the person being seen with someone else as an attempt to incite jealousy. In fact, the person could not care less and they are simply leading their life without reference to their obsessed admirer!

Rejection plays a vital role in the progression of an obsessive interest. Without rejection, it is possible that an interest will simply die away. The rejection seems to light a fire under what could have turned a corner and become simply a pleasant friendship: rejection produces feelings of inadequacy and anger and causes a mild obsession to become a crusade.

It is imperative when dealing with romantic episodes that the difference between obsession and love is properly identified by baby boomers. It is also important that rejection is accepted rather than acted upon. Should acceptance present difficulties, professional help should be sought to address the emotional effects the rejection has caused.

The Psychological Article on Obsession and Love – The Difference is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Baby Boomers Guide to Types of Obsession and How They Can Affect Us by BoomerYearbook.com

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur through obsession; the dangers of leaving an obsession untreated and the coaching solutions available: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

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Obsession is one of the more painful and distorted aspects of passion; closely associated with a range of emotions such as hate; love; joy and despair. Emotional conflict is often a feature of obsession and it is possible that an obsessive episode will encompass extremes of all four of the emotions mentioned. Baby boomers entering middle to older age will certainly have encountered obsession in one of its many forms at some time in their lives. The experience of obsession, both for the obsessed and for the target of his or her emotion, can be unpleasant and frightening.

Most baby boomers have seen romantic or sexual obsession illustrated either in literature or on film and we can all relate to the fear and outrage felt as a person is stalked; pestered and generally bullied into being sociable with someone they either dislike or have no interest in.

Psychological articles list other obsessive behavioral traits that might include an over developed passion for work (a person unable to relate normally to others unless they are in a work related environment - workaholics compelled to restrict every activity to work); parents who feel a targeting emotion for a child, setting their affections for their other children aside to pursue an obsessive interest in one particular child; or material obsession, which involves becoming consumed with an interest in material possessions.

Obsession is simply an overwhelming and irresistible passion that excludes all else and most baby boomers have been on the receiving end of unwelcome attention from an admirer at some time, or even themselves been personally obsessed with a person or thing. Obsessions are rarely satisfied and romantic or sexual obsession might be experienced as a ‘one off’, targeting one particular person: the same feelings of obsession might not be present with previous or subsequent partners.

Obsession might also become a fixed personality disorder, with every romantic or sexual relationship being conducted in the same obsessive way, leading to the relationship being terminated by the subject and occasionally, in extreme cases, involving court injunctions to prevent the obsessed person from gaining access to his or her victim. Psychological articles confirm that being the object of another person’s obsessive desires can be frightening and even life threatening if the problem is not addressed effectively.

Obsession might involve a particular item or person in the life of the average baby boomer. A man might have a strange and obsessive affection for his car that he does not feel for anything or anyone else to such a degree. This kind of obsessive interest in a possession might be overlooked by a partner but it is nonetheless a mild obsession, which luckily is unlikely to affect anyone else and is therefore accepted as ‘quirkiness’. Such an interest might actually intensify as each new car is acquired, to the extent that a car becomes inadequate for its original purpose as the owner refuses to allow certain people to travel in it and keeps the car under shelter from the rain, shopping malls, or even highway driving! While some kinds of obsessive thinking can be quite common, if stepped over the line to meet the DSM-IV Criteria of Obseesive Compulsive Disorder, it is rarely if ever healthy and may indeed warrant professional help.

 

 


DSM IV Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Criteria

A. Either obsessions or compulsions:

Obsessions as defined by (1), (2), (3), and (4):

(1) recurrent and persistent thoughts, impulses, or images that are experienced at some time during the disturbance, as intrusive and inappropriate and that cause marked anxiety or distress

(2) the thoughts, impulses, or images are not simply excessive worries about real-life problems

(3) the person attempts to ignore or suppress such thoughts, impulses, or images, or to neutralize them with some other thought or action

(4) the person recognizes that the obsessional thoughts, impulses, or images are a product of his or her own mind (not imposed from without as in thought insertion)

Compulsions as defined by (1) and (2):

(1) repetitive behaviors (e.g., hand washing, ordering, checking) or mental acts (e.g., praying, counting, repeating words silently) that the person feels driven to perform in response to an obsession, or according to rules that must be applied rigidly

(2) the behaviors or mental acts are aimed at preventing or reducing distress or preventing some dreaded event or situation; however, these behaviors or mental acts either are not connected in a realistic way with what they are designed to neutralize or prevent or are clearly excessive

B. At some point during the course of the disorder, the person has recognized that the obsessions or compulsions are excessive or unreasonable. Note: This does not apply to children.

C. The obsessions or compulsions cause marked distress, are time consuming (take more than 1 hour a day), or significantly interfere with the person’s normal routine, occupational (or academic) functioning, or usual social activities or relationships.

D. I another Axis I disorder is present, the content of the obsessions or compulsions is not restricted to it (e.g., preoccupation with food in the presence of an Eating Disorder; hair pulling in the presence of Trichotillomania; concern with appearance in the presence of Body Dysmorphic Disorder; preoccupation with drugs in the presence of a Substance Use Disorder; preoccupation with having a serious illness in the presence of Hypochondriasis; preoccupation with sexual urges or fantasies in the presence of a Paraphilia; or guilty ruminations in the presence of Major Depressive Disorder).

E. The disturbance is not due to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition. DSM IV Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Criteria

 

 

 

The Psychological Article on Types of Obsession and How They Can Affect Us is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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