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Lack of Trust: How to Start Trusting Again

Sunday, November 1st, 2009

by BoomerYearbook.com

Lack of trust can kill any relationship. If a partner has cheated in the past or has a habit of lying then the inability to trust them is understandable. In fact in such cases the entire relationship may have to be re-evaluated. However, if one of the partners constantly doubts the other’s fidelity without having any justified reason to do so, then lack of trust is not just unfair to the other person but can also have disastrous consequences for the relationship.

If you find yourself constantly questioning your partner’s affections and motives, have a habit of cross checking their claims and statements with a third person, spy on them for no reason and have frequent arguments over your mistrusting nature, then you may be suffering from a chronic lack of trust. You are probably aware that your lack of trust has nothing to do with your partner; it’s like a bad habit, which has become a part of your personality. But the problem is that your habit probably hurts your partner more than you realize and before you know your relationship will start falling apart right in front of your eyes.

Causes of lack of trust

Your habit of mistrusting people who profess to love you could have its roots in your past. The following are some of the most common causes of this problem:

Emotional hurt—If in any of your previous relationships your partner cheated on you and you felt deeply hurt by the betrayal, it is possible that you moved on to the next relationship, without resolving your feelings. In such a case you might constantly compare your present partner with your ex and use your “lack of trust” as a defense mechanism against heartbreak.

History of betrayal- If you have been too naive and trusting in the past, it’s possible a lot of people may have taken you for a ride. This may have forced you to move to the other extreme of mistrusting anyone who tries to come close to you.

Childhood trauma- The experiences we go through as children play a huge role in shaping our personalities. If as a child you witnessed a parent’s infidelity or a bitter divorce, chances are that you will grow up into a person with a deep mistrust for people who profess to love you.

Conditioning- If a child is brought up by a single parent who was at receiving end of betrayal by his her partner; it’s possible that the parent might have unconsciously passed on generalized negative beliefs about the opposite sex to the child.

Low self esteem- A person suffering from low self-esteem might feel that they do not deserve the attention, care, and concern of anyone. They therefore have problems trusting the positive, healthy, and loving behavior of people around them and their negative self-talk forces them to look for an ulterior motive behind the most sincere actions.

How to start trusting again

If you can identify with any of these problems and want to learn to trust people again, without the constant fear of being taken advantage of, you need to let go of the past and make a fresh start. Practicing positive affirmations is one of the simplest ways to unlearn the old and learn a new way of living.

Positive Affirmations:

Your beliefs are a result of your repeated past experiences which cause conditioned patterns and perceptions. Positive affirmations involve persistently exposing yourself to new ideas, till your mind absorbs them as new internalized belief systems. The following affirmations will help you unlearn old patterns and accept new ideas about life and yourself.

Stand in front of a mirror and repeat each affirmation at least 30-40 times daily. A better idea would be to focus on one affirmation for a week and then move to the next one.

“I love and accept myself the way I am”

“I deserve to love and to be loved”

“It’s safe for me to love people and allow them to love me”

“I feel safe and trust the process of life to bring me the best, because that’s what I deserve”

“I let go of the past and welcome the future with open arms”

Practice these affirmations till they become a part of your new belief system.

When you refuse to trust people you stop life from bringing forth the possibilities of love and happiness that could be in store for you. When you live in fear of being let down, you miss the opportunity to love and feel loved. Give life a chance, after all it’s better to find love and lose it than live without knowing how beautiful love is.

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How Nationalized Health Care Would Impact Baby Boomers

Tuesday, September 15th, 2009

Baby Boomers and Nationalized Health Care

Baby Boomers and Nationalized Health Care

By Boomeryearbook.com

Baby boomers have always sought private health care simply because nationalized health care has never been an option. In the debate whether boomers and older people would benefit from a nationalized health system, a number of factors need to be considered.

Baby boomers pay taxes like everyone else. A nationalized system of health care is an expensive commodity and likely to require enormous set up costs in its initial stages, increasing the tax bill for consumers. Baby boomers, unlike the younger generation, have invested a great deal of money in private coverage over the years and built long term relationships with their medical providers. Although private coverage can be expensive, the majority of baby boomers have finance in place for medical cover and have the added advantage of shorter waiting lists for treatment.

In a government controlled health system, baby boomers would encounter the same problems experienced by older patients in the UK, Canada, and New Zealand, where older people are de-listed when their illnesses become too great a burden on state resources.

Unpopular decisions are also made via administration in nationalized health, when a patient in extreme old age is considered for an expensive operation. Younger patients receive priority in such cases, especially when recovery involves a degree of disciplined exercise and physiotherapy. Older patients are judged (sometimes unfairly) to be a poor risk and are refused operations on grounds of practicality. This never happens in private health care where a patient will always get what he pays for regardless, unless his extreme age so limits his chances of recovery that the procedure is deemed dangerous to his own welfare.

Policies concerning age and eligibility are not factors to be considered in the private health sector. Each patient is a paying customer and is treated as such. In a nationalized health situation, baby boomers would likely not be considered for what is generally viewed to be border line cosmetic treatments, such as mole or wart surgery. Private health companies view such issues with the same degree of care as any other ailment.

Many baby boomers would be likely to hang onto their private health cover in the event of a nationalized health service being introduced, for obvious reasons, so would end up effectively paying for both systems. Baby boomers accustomed for years to being treated at the head of the line might find the tedium of changing their system somewhat unpalatable. It would probably be necessary to change doctors, change clinics and physiotherapy centers, in fact to change everything concerned with health care and start over with a new team. For those who cling to tradition and routine, change can be a trauma best avoided in older age.

On the whole, Boomerland is probably better off staying private… or risk being discarded by Nationalized Health Care

Boomers Beware: National Health Care is Coming

 

 

 

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Baby Boomers Guide to Toxic Children

Tuesday, September 15th, 2009

Baby Boomers Guide to Toxic Children

Baby Boomers Guide to Toxic Children

Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

Of course there are no toxic children: only toxic parents. Psychological articles cover the subject of toxicity in a variety of guises and hosts. The most distressing of these is the presence of toxic behavior in children, which is just another description for appalling manners really. We all know where the fault of bad manners in children lays – firmly with the parents.

Poor parenting is the modern disease for which there is seemingly no cure, only a program of optimistic improvement. Psychological articles that research poor parenting and its effects on children nearly always attribute poor parenting skills to the upbringing that parent received as a child, and so the vicious circle goes on and on…

There is an undeniable connection in psychological articles that bad parents come from other bad parents. Each generation passes on an ugly legacy of bad behavior to the next, each one justifying the toxic effect with the excuse, “That’s the way I was brought up and it didn’t do me any harm…” which is, of course, nonsense.

Children respond to love, kindness, routine and gentle discipline. Toxic children need not remain so and can be encouraged into a world where civil behavior is the new order of the day quite easily with careful attention and plenty of affection. Psychological articles on the prescribed manner of dealing with naughty children often recommend a policy of tolerance as a start. However, this often imparts the wrong message, especially to very young children with limited understanding.

Very young children understand only what is allowed or not allowed, as the case may be. There is no need to explain the reason why Junior is not permitted to pull Grandma’s earrings off. He just is not allowed to. End. People who must take on the unenviable task of correcting toxic behavior in children need to understand that negotiation with the very young can lead to a lack of confidence in authority. Psychological articles clearly outline the benefits of gentle authority, which encourages the child to rely upon instructions from that person and know them to be a reliable source of affection and understanding.

Toxic behavior comes in all kinds of unpleasant packages: shouting; arguing; throwing things; temper tantrums; rudeness; lying; the list is endless, unfortunately. Almost all of these ghastly characteristics are exhibited by parents as well as children and probably more often. The trick is to eliminate the problems from the parents and the children will benefit by association.

Psychological articles that target the difficulties of toxic children nearly always begin with the inadequacies of the parents involved. Parenting skills are at the heart of most of the toxic problems suffered by children and parents need to be re-trained in these skills before a significant improvement can be expected.

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Are Baby Boomers a Narcissistic Generation? The Boomers Magic Mirror

Tuesday, September 15th, 2009

Baby Boomers Narcissistic Magic Mirrors

Baby Boomers Narcissistic Magic Mirrors

Psychological Articles by Boomeryearbook.com

Baby boomers were born in the aftermath of the Second World War. Parents of older, strong>baby boomers were survivors of a conflict worse than anything the World had seen before. Men serving in the armed forces came home after a long and harsh exposure to violence and horror and immediately set about having as good a life as they could afford and paying some attention to the family life they had dreamed of for so long.

Family life included producing ‘baby boomers’ and taking steps to ensure that Junior would never have to suffer the horrors of war. Parents strove to provide a comfortable home filled with every affordable luxury. As a result, baby boomers were raised in a charmed environment to a certain extent, in sharp contrast to the hardships their parents had to tolerate.

When parents invest a great deal of time convincing their children that they are the most important creatures in the World, eventually the children start to believe it and this is the seed inadvertently sown by parents of narcissistic children. Such children grow up in an atmosphere of over-indulgence, are given the best that their parents can afford and in general might be over weaned in terms of being materially spoiled. Baby boomers fall into the category of being spoiled as a generation of kids that grew up in secure surroundings, being raised by parents who were determined to give their offspring all the best things in life that the war precluded in recent years.

As baby boomers developed, childhood spoiling overlapped into teenage indulgence and eventually the baby boomer executive emerged as an exacting and demanding employer, accustomed to getting what he wanted, when he wanted it. Narcissism, in the case of baby boomers, is inflicted rather than inherent, by over enthusiastic parents with a steely determination to see their children succeed and seize every possible chance of being high achievers.

Well, why not? Surely, it is human nature to want the best from life? Certainly it is, but boomers, through being raised by parents hungry to see them succeed at all cost in some way lost a gentility of spirit present in the previous generation and in the one that followed.

Baby boomers reach fifty and immediately remind everyone they are elderly and require help and they manage to get in one way or another, sometimes at the expense of a less capable, albeit younger, family member.

Elderly boomers will usually follow the course that benefits them the most; the line of action that affords them an advantage over a competitor or even over other family members; the most profitable option for them; the selfish route that might be the most inconvenient for someone else but which gives boomer what he or she wants. They cannot help it: they were raised with magic mirrors.

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A Baby Boomers Look at Some Causes of Personality Disorders

Tuesday, September 15th, 2009

Multiple Faces of Personality

Multiple Faces of Personality

A Psychological Article by Boomeryearbook.com

You may have seen movies or television shows depicting those with personality disorders as someone with pretty bizarre symptoms and a very disturbed mind. Perhaps you’ve thought that this psychological disorder could never happen to you or anyone you love. In this psychological article we will take a hard look at the causes of personality disorder.

As all you Baby Boomers out there are aware, some of us did not grow up in a “Ward and June Cleaver” household. Maybe there was some fighting, yelling or even violence. Below is a checklist of various factors, which can contribute to personality disorders. This psychological article will discuss how these childhood traumas can develop over time into what the American Psychiatric Associations Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM-IV) describes as personality disorders.

1. Was there fighting, yelling or violence in your childhood?
2. Did you feel unsettled much of the time? Like anything could happen; an environment in which there was no sense of stability.
3. Did you grow up with parents that you were ashamed of for some reason? Maybe they were lazy or alcoholic or even abusive.
4. Did you suffer from verbal, physical or sexual abuse?

These are some of the main factors that can take root in a child and manifest later in life as a personality disorder. This psychological article explains how this can happen.

The traumatic events named above occur while we are still children. We are not fully developed. Our minds, hearts, personalities are still very fragile. As children we are like sponges. We absorb whatever’s around us.

Violence or abuse can distort our self-image. We begin a life long journey of figuring out who we are except that we base our findings and conclusions on erroneous information. Many psychological articles explain this in great detail but the bottom line is that in order to grow into healthy adults without personality problems human children need to be told by those they trust that they are good, beautiful people with something valuable to contribute.

Children need constant affirmation as they are growing up. All psychological articles agree upon this. When they don’t receive healthy affirmation of who they are, they begin to develop a self image that is distorted. They begin to believe they are worthless and have nothing to contribute. They have no purpose or destiny. They struggle their whole lives with low self-esteem.

Most psychological articles additionally conclude that co-comittant depression will very often develop out of this type of childhood. Now you have several different psychological disorders that you’re dealing with and no understanding of why you feel this way or why your life has gone in this negative direction.

At this point in someone’s life, all it takes is a catalyst in order to develop a personality disorder. These can come in a variety of sizes and shapes and most psychological articles agree that it largely depends on the type and severity of abuse you received as a child. Here are a few catalysts that can trigger a personality disorder:

1. A friend or loved one is suddenly killed.
2. Your spouse betrays you by cheating or doing something completely unexpected that stuns you.
3. A friend or family member suffers some type of violence such as rape.
4. You are the victim of some type of violent act.
5. You are abandoned by those who love you.

This is just a partial list in most psychological articles but Baby Boomers have lived long enough to have seen a lot of stuff like that in their lives. It takes a harsh toll on us as humans to see someone we love suffer or even to have something of this nature happen in your own life and have no one to walk thru the Valley of the Shadow of Death with you.

Psychological articles suggest that along with the development of personality disorders these are triggers that in some extreme cases, can cause a second personality or multi personalities to develop. The old fulfillment of the adage that if you can’t deal with what has happened or you aren’t strong enough and you have no one to lean on, your unconscious mind can create an alternate personality to help share the traumatic burdens.

Psychological articles inform us that this secondary, or split off part of the original self, can display more adaptive, stronger, or “more heavily psychologically guarded” coping skills that protects the vulnerable aspect of the person’s wounded emotional makeup. The primary personality can “hide” behind the new personality which has the palliative effective of allowing the person to withdraw from pain through this extreme escape mechanism.

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3 Facing Alcoholism: Honesty-Making a List of our Faults- Warts and All

Friday, September 11th, 2009

Overcoming Alcoholism

Overcoming Alcoholism

By Boomeryearbook.com

Alcoholics can be a self pitying lot! Sometimes, even in the face of enormous encouragement, they will see themselves as being unsupported, unloved and uncared for. Recovering alcoholics approaching the point where they recognize their problem, facing it head on and achieving some success in turning away from their addiction, must nonetheless still undertake a process of self analysis to understand how to conquer further temptation.

Stage three in the process of alcohol recovery involves taking a long and hard look in the mirror and sometimes admitting the reflection is not particularly attractive. Long term alcoholics, some of whom suffer with elderly problems alongside their alcohol dependency, may find the journey through the process of self analysis incredibly difficult and fraught with self doubt and anger at having to go through the ordeal.

Steps in Alcohol Recovery

Steps in Alcohol Recovery

‘Warts and all’ is a concept we all enjoy when it involves hearing of someone else’s shortcomings but not necessarily our own; especially when we approach our older baby boomer years and possibly have to deal with elderly problems. Some of us harbour the attitude that because we are getting on in life, our faults should be overlooked or ignored out of respect to our age. Even people who are not alcoholics are susceptible to this indulgence; people who are alcohol dependant are inclined to pounce on any loophole that will allow a little leniency and this is the exact time when strict self examination is crucial to success.

The third stage toward recovery is a time of reflection and taking stock of progress made, along with a determination to continue on the road to sobriety. For those who are baby boomers and have a few more years under their belt, the process is no different to that which must be undertaken by a thirty year old. Elderly problems offer no excuse for sitting back and protesting, “Oh I can be cut a little slack at my age”. No, no. The entire process of recovery from alcohol addiction is stapled to a firm resolve to change completely and forever.
Alcoholism is no easy beast to slay. The symptoms of withdrawal, even in the mildest form, are unpleasant and debilitating, especially if they are aggravated by elderly problems. A recovering alcoholic might suffer vomiting, loss of appetite, insomnia, sweats, tremors, involuntary twitching, headaches and a racing or irregular heart rate. Any of these symptoms would cause anxiety in most people but for an alcoholic they represent an excuse to give in. More severe withdrawal might include convulsions, hallucinations, delirium, DT’s and black outs.
Stage three is protracted and difficult. Not only is the alcoholic acutely uncomfortable and suffering from physical symptoms, which might also be combined with the symptoms of elderly problems, he or she will be aware that they are less than half way to complete recovery.
It is hardly surprising then that many alcoholics who have come through all twelve stages of recovery view stage three as one of the most difficult and label it the ‘fork in the road’.

Alcoholic Recovery: Honesty Making a List of our Faults Warts and All is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Obama Apologizes To Europe For American Arrogance

Saturday, May 2nd, 2009

Pres. Obama bows to Saudi King

Pres. Obama bows to Saudi King

(shades of John Kerry’s apology tour)

by: Joseph J Kusnell for Boomeryearbook.com

An open letter to the President of the United States:

“Dear Mr. President: It is not America that is arrogant; it is you who are arrogant. That has become increasingly obvious with each of your public appearances. It might nevertheless be a good idea for you to take a moment to review American and World History since you seem to be somewhat lacking in historical perspective. To assist you in this undertaking, l will take a moment here to review specific examples of world-power arrogance and together we can see how America shapes up. It might be illuminating.

England: The English Colonial Empire extended around the world and into North America for centuries. To say England was arrogant on the world scene would be a gross understatement. If arrogance is defined as acting without regard to the opinion of others, then the English may have invented arrogance. Even so, it was certainly not limited to England. Most European countries at one time or other have been arrogant ranging from the Greeks to the Roman Empire to the Ottomans. World powers usually do that, act without the permission of others.

France: France is another example of a country that has acted arrogantly in its past. Study the conduct of the French in North Africa and see whether their conduct would properly be classed as arrogant. I’d say it would be. (By the way they also sent their fleet half way around the world to assist the fledging United States of America because of their hatred of the British. (A good example of national arrogance even if it did benefit America.)

Germany: This would be funny if the subject matter wasn’t so serious. Germany started two world wars that resulted in the death of eighty million people. Were they sensitive to the feelings of other nations? Give me break. America left 350,000 dead soldiers on European soil, boys sent there to defend EUROPE – not America - from that arrogance. (By the way, no one objected when our troops landed in Europe to save those Europeans from a German dictator but they did object when we landed in Iraq to save the Iraqis from an Iraqi dictator. If the shoe fits –)

Spain: Has everyone forgotten the history of the Spanish in the Western Hemisphere? The Spanish Armada or the brutal colonization of the New World by Spain? Arrogance anyone?

Russia: Would you call it arrogant when a people’s government decides to kill tens of millions of their own citizens as well as millions of citizens of other countries in order to create communist states? Did they ask the permission of any other nations before they acted? Did they care what anyone else thought of their activities around the world? No, I don’t think so. They just did what they wanted to do and slaughtered whomever they wanted to slaughter.

China: Mao Tse Tung and Chou En-Lai killed many tens of millions of their own people to install communism and then invaded peaceful Tibet. In doing so, they ignored the complaints of all other nations. I call that arrogance personified.

Japan: How arrogant was the Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor or their treatment of America prisoners of war in the South Seas? And what about their brutal, arrogant and vicious attacks on China before that? How much did they care about world opinion when they decided to act militarily against their neighbors? None at all.

Iraq: Would you call gassing 300,00 of your own people in order to establish and maintain a dictatorship, acting arrogantly? What about attacks on your neighbors and ignoring UN mandates? Would your call Hussein an arrogant dictator? will leave that one to you.

Who have I missed? Castro? Chavez’ Peron? How about Hannibal, Alexander and the Moors?

It would seem to me that arrogance is a staple of world superpowers and always has been. Why even recently, England sent warships half way around the world to fight the Argentines over Islands off the shore of Argentina. That seems to have been colonialism at its worst. You see, arrogance is acting without caring much for the opinion of others and by that definition, every one of these countries has acted arrogantly when it suited their purpose.

But you, Mr. President, never mentioned their histories. For some reason, all you could think to criticize was America. So tell me specifically sir, where and how America was so arrogant that you felt the need to apologize. As you do, keep in mind:

It was America that suffered on 9/11.

It was America that suffered from terrorist attacks that killed 250 of its Marines in Beirut.

It was America that was the victim when the US Cole was the target of terrorists.

It was America that was attacked in 1991 when the first WTC bombing occurred.

So Mr. President, it is obvious that we were provoked. So with that in mind, please point out where America was so arrogant and what did we gain from that behavior.

We went into Viet Nam but that was to aid the French who were there and stave off communist expansion as the French retreated (which they do so well). Did America have a national interest there? No, the French did. America went in to halt the takeover of South Vietnam by communist North Vietnam.

What about Korea? Was that an example of American arrogance? I think North Korea attacked South Korea and we entered the fray once again to halt the spread of a ruthless and despotic North Korean communist government. We had no other interest there and when we left, we took nothing with us. And what did we gain personally from that war? Nothing. What did we take away with us from that war. Nothing. Nothing that is except our wounded.

So exactly where was America arrogant? And who says so besides you? Is it your position that it’s arrogant for a world power to act in its own self-interest and if so, what are we doing in Afghanistan and what are our troops doing around the world defending those who do not wish to defend themselves. Is that more American arrogance?

Perhaps, Mr. President, you should go back and re-read a bit of history before you rip America.

So that takes us to Iraq, your long personal whipping boy and Democratic Talking Point (until you got elected). As I look back on Iraq, I see a dictator vanquished and a country that has now held three consecutive free elections for the first time in its long history. Remember those nine million Iraqis who risked their lives to vote? Remember how proud they were? Remember how they held up their green fingers. We did that.

So Iraq now has freedom for the first time along with a freely elected government. Hopefully they can keep it but we gave it to them. We suffered and died giving them freedom. No one wanted to help so WE are arrogant???? Would this freedom have occurred had we listened to Europe?

America put up the blood and the money to depose the madman Saddam Hussein. And what did we get out of it? How did we personally gain from it? What did we take home from Iraq to compensate for our sacrifice?

Nothing, sir. And what do you see that was arrogant in that? Or do you mean we were arrogant because others - particularly in Europe - didn’t want to fight there and so we did it ourselves. Was that arrogant, Mr. President? Should we have left when Germany, France and Russia refused to help out? Is that what you think should have been done?

Are other countries now going to make policy decisions for America during your administration? Is that how you plan to run our great country? Didn’t John Kerry once say he would do that if elected, visit every country (including anti-American countries) to ask if they approved of some contemplated US move? Just to make sure it was okay with them? Isn’t that what he said, Mr. President and is that where you got the idea?:

Now tell me, sir, which European power had done that in the past? When have they checked with us before taking actions they felt were in their own self-interest? If they did, I must have missed it.

Today we are in Afghanistan fighting another war and none of those European powers that wouldn’t help Bush is going to help you either. Know why? Because you are arrogant, sir. Look in the mirror. You just added more American troops to Afghanistan and so far none of the countries you have apologized to, has offered to send troops to help out. Same as with Bush. Therefore, to use your own logic, you must be arrogant.

Your speeches were ridiculous and ill-considered. Personally, I don’t think you know much about world history and I don’t think you know what you are talking about and were it not for the utter stupidity of so many American voters, you would still be working as a community organizer. But sadly, you are not. You now are leading the greatest country in the world. But where you are leading her is the big question.

So we were arrogant in Iraq because Germany, France and Russia refused to come in and help us to depose Hussein? Why when everyone knows these three countries were in bed with the guy. They were the primary markets for his oil. They were participants in his food-for-oil scam. They traded with the Middle East entire region and it was that which motivated their disinterest. Or did you think their lack of involvement was based on principal or simple altruism? Don’t make me laugh. They were all busy serving their own self-interest. Would you call that arrogance, Mr President? I dame sure would.

Finally, Mr. President let me look at something you said once in a speech, something about despots and dictators. You said we don’t have to fight them, we can let them ‘rust out’ or ‘run out of time’, words to that effect. In other words you can wait them out rather than go in and root them out. Of course many would die in the waiting, but you seemed to think that was the way to handle them.

I suppose this would indeed be the non-arrogant approach. But would it work? Can you really get rid of dictators by waiting them out? Let’s check on a few.

Castro President for Life

Peron President for Life

Chavez President for Life

Duvalier President for Life (Papa Doc)

Duvalier President for Life (Baby Doc)

Chou En Lai President for Life

Mao Tse Tung President for Life

Stalin President for Life

Hitler President for Life (Killed)

Mussolini President for Life (Killed)

The list goes on and on. Dictators don’t quit any more than their powerless people remove them. That almost never happens. Either someone else comes in and removes them or they don’t get removed. Your comment was pacifist nonsense. You recommend the gutless approach which itself is very self-serving.

What arrogance means to Europeans is that we fought in Iraq when Germany, France and Russia would not. They were against our being in there but we went in anyway. That’s why we were arrogant. Because we did what we thought had to be done – just as they have done throughout history.

Keep in mind, Mr. President, these same countries were not against us coming to Europe and leaving 350,000 dead American kids on European soil to save their butts in two World Wars. Coming in and using our power to save them could have been seen by some as acting arrogantly, but it was not because they needed us. Definitions can be flexible depending upon circumstances – and politics.

Your comment to Europeans that we are an arrogant nation played into their bruised psyches and they ate it up. What you said and where your said it and to whom, acted to elevate them at our expense. For that you should be taken to task since you are President of the United States and not of Europe. More to the point, what you said was dead wrong. You have no pride in America and it’s obvious. Your view is that of a one-worlder and Americans better understand that before you do irrevocable harm to our country.

Tell me, sir, America fought in Europe twice, in Iraq, in Viet Nam, and in Korea all in this century. What did we take home with us? What did we personally gain from those battles? What plunder did we amass as the Russians did in World War II or England and France and Spain did in their heydays. What plunder did America take home with us for our sacrifices?

The answer is nothing. That’s what we took home. When you were in Harvard, did they bother to teach you American history at all??? Or wasn’t American history all that important to them?

In all those wars, America fought for someone else or for freedom for someone else. We were not protecting anything we had from someone who wanted to take it from us. They were not wars of conquest. We fought to make life better for others. We fought to save Europe and the world from Nazi domination. We fought to save the South Koreans from the communist North. We fought to save the South Vietnamese from the communist North.

What selfishness! What arrogance!

America took nothing home from their victories. Nor did we occupy lands or rob national treasures. We did none of the things most victors do to the vanquished.

Yes, we’re the bad guys Mr. Turncoat President Obama. We’re the arrogant ones all right; not the European leaders that refused to fight Dictator Hussein for political and economic reasons. Who could care less about the hundreds of thousands of Iraqis he murdered or the young women he took off the streets and raped. They didn’t care. We cared enough to fight but they didn’t. And you call us arrogant?

According to you, MR. PRESIDENT, it was America that was arrogant, self-serving, and dictatorial. Well sir, you are lucky we have such a dishonest American press today otherwise you would be roasted on every front page in America. But you won’t be because they are arrogant in their politics and diseased in their dishonesty. Integrity is no longer a part of American journalism so your little gaffe will be largely ignored. But not to worry, you will repeat it because you believe it and in that will lie your undoing.

America is the best country this world has ever seen. Not perfect but the best. Someone ought to have told you that before you decided to run for the Presidency.

It might have helped you preserve her.

Joey

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The Health Benefits of Honey and Cinnamon

Saturday, April 18th, 2009

Pscyhological Articles on Benefits of Honey and Cinnamon

Pscyhological Articles on Benefits of Honey and Cinnamon

Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems

by Boomeryearbook.com

Honey and cinnamon have a long tradition as herbal remedies for numerous conditions. Honey in particular has been presented in psychological articles as a cure-for-all in many problems like heart disease, arthritis, stomach ailments etc. Additionally, anectodal information in psychological articles has claimed that when used with cinnamon, the combination greatly increases the scope and power of honey. Moreover, recent research in psychological articleshas shown that eating honey in moderate amounts doesn’t increase the probability of getting diabetes. In 1985 the Canadian magazine Weekly World News listed conditions and problems that respond positively to treatment with a combination of honey and cinnamon.

Heart Problems and Arthritis:

The above mentioned psychological article stated that honey and cinnamon both have properties that provide protection from heart problems and arthritis. Honey decreases the amount of hardened cholesterol in arteries thereby reducing the chances of a heart attack, and for those who have suffered a heart attack, if used regularly, it protects from further attacks. One of the elderly problems we face as we grow older is that arteries and veins become weaker, and it has been shown that honey can be revitalizing.

Psychological articles have also informed us that Arthritis has also been shown to significantly improve with regular usage of honey and cinnamon. It is recommended that ideally the honey and cinnamon combination should be taken in a cup of hot water with a half a teaspoon of cinnamon and two of honey. In a study at Copenhagen University, seventy three patients of a total of 200 were cured of their Arthritis while the rest experienced significant relief!

Stomach problems and flu.

Generally stomach problems are helped significantly by honey. Bladder infections respond immediately to honey if mixed with warm water and taken in liquid form as psychological articles have long told of the power of honey to destroy germs in the bladder. The same combination of drinking honey and cinnamon also works well with colds, flu. Psychological articles have advised to use one quarter teaspoon of cinnamon added to the honey to help coughs and blocked sinuses. Honey is also known to work well on stomach ulcers and reduces pain and gas when used with cinnamon and psychological articles as well as folklore has informed us that honey and cinnamon can easily eliminate bad breath.

Immune system and longevity

Psychological articles have stated that both honey and cinnamon have been proven to strengthen the immune system of viral and bacterial infections, and that when taken together the ingredients that have large amounts of natural minerals in the form of vitamins and iron, greatly help white blood cells fight disease, although existing in synthetic form, the combination of elements in honey has a greater effect. Furthermore, psychological articles report that this increased immune response from taking honey and cinnamon also enhances general health as well as longevity. Used in combination with a healthy lifestyle, (daily usage of 3 or 4 times a day) of both ingredients has been recommended to help eliminate many elderly problems, to maintain good health and live a longer life.

Skin problems

Due to its antibiotic properties, honey used in pastes to cover rashes and other skin problems has a relieving and healing effect. Common problems such as pimples, which psychological articles tell us honey can remove from their roots, usually respond particularly well. More serious infections like eczema, ringworm etc. have also been shown to have significant positive effects and sometimes, psychological articles report them as cured.

Weight loss, anti-carcinogenic and fatigue

Psychological articles have documented that fat formation is prevented if one teaspoon of honey and cinnamon mixed into a cup of boiled water is routinely taken before breakfast and before bed, as it helps reduce weight- even in obese people! Furthermore, in some instances, honey and cinnamon have been shown to be an effective anti-cancer remedy resulting partly from their ability to strengthen the immune system as well as their cleansing qualities. Likewise, apathy, fatigue and increases in strength have been reported in psychological articles from the regular usage of honey and cinnamon taken in equal part. Research has shown that a tablespoon of honey sprinkled with powder made from cinnamon is an effective single dosage.

The Psychological Article on The Benefits of Honey and Cinnamon is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of psychological articles on Elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Pole Dancing for the Baby Boomer Generation

Friday, March 27th, 2009

Baby Boomers and Pole Dancing

Baby Boomers and Pole Dancing

By Boomeryearbook.com

Dancing is an self-expressive art form, and pole dancing, similar to other dance styles, is a combination of self-expression as well as a performance art. For those who have been living under a rock, pole dancing can be characterized as a synergy of sensual dancing and gymnastic skills displayed by a singular artist/entertainer using a vertical pole as a prop. Initially only done in strip clubs and gentlemen’s clubs, today pole dancing is performed in non-erotic venues such as circuses, cabarets and other mainstream stage performances.

Advanced pole dancing requires remarkable strength, muscle co-ordination, flexibility, stamina, and endurance. In strip clubs however, it doesn’t require many gymnastic skills, as the dancers can simply hold the pole; while in other venues the pole is used for climbs, spins and body inversions. The key to a well performed, proficient pole dance is upper body and core strength.

Recently, pole dancing has acquired popularity as a form of an exercise. It can be used as, both an aerobic and non aerobic workout. Many well known fitness clubs are offering a program in pole dancing. In such classes mostly women and sometimes men use a pole as the workout prop. The exercise really enhances upper body strength and does overall toning of the body.

Pole Dancing For Baby Boomers

It may come as a surprise to many that pole dancing has a solution for many elderly problems. It is not only a social activity but it also holds the key to solve many common elderly problems. It can not only cheer us up by pumping up endorphins, it also improves overall heath, reduces stress, burns calories, lowers cholesterol and can help fight dementia.

Health

While it may not be the most conventional way of burning calories and losing weight, it is no doubt one of the most fun ways. It can burn as many calories as does a spinning class and other gym session, and is one of the easiest ways to beat winter blues, a widely experienced elderly problem as it improves overall blood circulation.

Pole dancing is a very unique way of strengthening the leg and hip bones. In addition to that, in order to master the moves, one has to perform them repeatedly which builds up stamina and lowers blood pressure.

Alzheimer’s

Alzheimer’s is undoubtedly one of the most challenging elderly problem today. Pole dancing surprisingly helps fight Alzheimer’s as it involves memorizing steps and techniques, and engaging the participant in a challenging brain activity; and psychological articles inform us that mental challenges keep our brains fit and can protect us from all forms of dementia.

Pleasure

In addition to medical benefits, pole dancing provides a chance to enjoyment without too much exertion. Thus, the excitement caused by the experience allows the body to release endorphins; making us happier, more energetic, and definately sexier!

Today, there is a growing worldwide effort to make pole dancing a serious sport as well as art form. It’s not only fun but can be the road to overall improved mental and physical health, as it builds endurance, flexibility, agility, co-ordination, stamina,strength and sex appeal.

So what are we waiting for baby boomers? It’s time for us to get moving.

Pole Dancing for the Baby Boomers Generation is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of psychological articles on Elderly Problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Psychological Articles on World Religions

Tuesday, March 10th, 2009

Sufism in Pakistan. Can it fight the Taleban (BBC news)

Sufism in Pakistan. Can it fight the Taleban (BBC news)

“Can Sufi Islam counter the Taleban? Barbara Plett, BBC World Service News
February 24, 2009
Pakistan has a reputation as a hotspot for extremist Islam but most Pakistanis follow a gentler, more tolerant form of Islam based on Sufi mysticism and folklore.
Shah Mehmood Qureshi, Pakistan’s Sufi foreign minister, recently suggested that his religion could be used as a counter to growing fundamentalism in the country. His views echo those of western think tanks such as the Rand Corporation, who recommend the mobilisation of Sufism to counter Islamist ideology and influence.
Barbara Plett reports from Lahore, a city steeped in Sufi tradition.”


Boomer Yearbook is humbly offering this correction to Barbara Plett’s BBC article in that we have learned that Shah Mahmood Qureshi belongs to a lineage of patrons of saints but is not a sufi himself.

Sufism and Rumi’s Take on Love

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Sufism: Mystical Islam

Sufism: Mystical Islam

Love is the single most potent emotion that has been a mystery to people since the beginning of times. We all feel it, discuss it, lament it but no one can tell what love is exactly. There is the love of the man for the woman, the mother for her child, the love between 2 friends or siblings, and that of Man for God.

Unrequited love can destroy a person, leaving him desolate and at the brink of madness. To love is as important for humans to live as perhaps is water to fish. Psychological articles even claim that an indicator of whether a person is going to live for the next ten years or not depends on whether he believes someone loves him or not.

Psychological articles speak of the strong connection between love and the feelings of stress, depression, self-esteem and even physical well being. There are vital questions revolving around this feeling that no scientist can answer. What we need is a psycho-analysis of the truth of love, ways of nurturing it, and learning from the feeling so we can provide nourishment and enrichment to our souls. For Sufis, who practice mystical Islam, the answers come from the works and teachings of a great teacher and a master who can lead us through the part that reaches our hearts and through that to our souls.

One such person who is recognized in both Eastern and Western writing, is the great poet and Sufi mystic, Jalal-ud-din Rumi. Rumi, who emphasizes that every person has a degree of divinity and no solution, no answer is impossible if we remember this truth about ourselves. Nothing is impossible for God and He is an embodiment of the best form of love.

Psychological articles that set Rumi’s philosophy regarding love as a pattern emphasize hence that surrendering to love is the only way of finding it as the object of a person’s love is but a reflection of his own inner self with each capable of the most deep and soulful form of love.

For Rumi, love was not the shallow feeling that it has come to be synonymous with in modern world. No matter how or who you love, it all traces back to God and as such brings us nearer to that Diving Being. Psychological articles explain that to love and be loved gives life clarity and meaning. Our senses suddenly become more aware of the world which in turn makes us realize the binding of all people and things into one solitary consciousness – making us One.

Psychological articles further argue that the pace at which modern life flows presents the biggest impediment to the way of loving relationships. In our hurried lives, people have lost the precious gift of self-reflection; we skirt around the perimeters of the meaning and nature of love, but fail to delve deeply into the totality of love’s essence. We always have something more important to do, always wanted somewhere else and in the bustle of life we forget to spend time in the company of those we love, trying to understand the subtleties of the feeling and to understand its divine connection.

Rumi’s Sufism teaches us that love demands that we take a deeper look into our inner selves as well as our lovers and try to understand that we have been created for each other and have been put into each other’s path by God. This is a gift He has bestowed so we can advance together in our spiritual struggle. Our lover is, therefore, not merely an object that has been created to meet our expectations, but a Godly presence on earth.

Rumi further teaches us that accepting our love in this manner will help us in our quest to understand it and learn from it but if all we do is make demands of love and have countless expectations we will find ourselves heading for endless disappointment and hurt. Psychological articles explicating Sufism and Rumi’s concept of love also state that diverting from this guideline leads to a defensive and conflicting attitude which is nowhere near the concept of love.

Understanding what we want and having a clear knowledge of it spares us a lot of misunderstandings. Another point to consider in accordance with the teachings of Rumi is that if we meet rejection we must be willing to explore the arising feelings accompanying this rejection. This will help us to beat dejection and also understand Rumi’s words that:

Come, come, whoever you are!
Wanderer, idolater, worshipper of fire,
Come even though you have been broken a hundred times!
Come, and come again,
Ours is not a caravan of despair!

Look! This is Love - Poems of Rumi,
translation by Annemarie Schimme

Sufism and Rumi’s Take on Love is the first in a series of psychological articles on World Religions, Spirtuality, and Solutions to Types of Discrimination. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Religious Symbols: One World Many Faiths

Religious Symbols: One World Many Faiths

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