Boomers Guide to Obsession and Love – The Difference by

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This series of articles from Boomer Yearbook explores the fascinating and varied behavioral patterns that occur through obsession; the dangers of leaving an obsession untreated and the coaching solutions available: Boomer Yearbook’s Guide and Coaching Strategy for the baby boomer generation.

Baby boomers, with an expansive and varied experience of life behind them, have more often than not had their fair share of romantic experiences along with a few romantic disasters they might regret in later life.

Psychological articles show us that from time to time, the signals we send to people who find us attractive are misinterpreted and our feelings are misrepresented by the impression we give someone else. Alternatively, another person might simply ‘read too much into’ an act of friendship or a gesture of consideration. In the confusion, certain assumptions are made and before we know it, we are knee deep in some awful and embarrassing romantic illusion we find it hard to escape from without damaging someone’s pride and sensitivity.

The perimeters we baby boomers set for new acquaintances are sometimes a little too flexible and we inadvertently welcome attentions we actually had no intention of encouraging. Some people, on the other hand, are just stupid and blunder through life walking on the broken glass left behind from a series of over intense and shattered love affairs because they were not considerate enough to make their motives clear at the beginning of each association.

The signals we send at the beginning of romantic interludes set the tone for the relationship we hope to have. For example, lady baby boomers in their late fifties or early sixties with absolutely no desire to have sex with a new date would be sending the wrong signals to a man if they showed up wearing an outfit that revealed half their cleavage and most of their underwear! Taking offence at his advances later in the evening would seem unreasonable in view of the clear and unmistakeable message they “seemed” to have be sending at the outset. On being rejected, the man could well feel small, foolish and furious, leading to anger.


Psychological articles explore the interpretations of signals and messages we give out and often we are unable to receive signals correctly when we are in the grip of obsessive interest in a member of the opposite sex: disinterest is seen as ‘playing hard to get’; stand offs are seen as small demonstrations of independence; refusals to respond to phone calls and emails are merely glitches and the person being seen with someone else as an attempt to incite jealousy. In fact, the person could not care less and they are simply leading their life without reference to their obsessed admirer!

Rejection plays a vital role in the progression of an obsessive interest. Without rejection, it is possible that an interest will simply die away. The rejection seems to light a fire under what could have turned a corner and become simply a pleasant friendship: rejection produces feelings of inadequacy and anger and causes a mild obsession to become a crusade.

It is imperative when dealing with romantic episodes that the difference between obsession and love is properly identified by baby boomers. It is also important that rejection is accepted rather than acted upon. Should acceptance present difficulties, professional help should be sought to address the emotional effects the rejection has caused.

The Psychological Article on Obsession and Love – The Difference is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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