5. Fitting In With Younger Mothers: The Older Mother’s Dilemma by BoomerYearbook.com

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Psychological Articles on Elderly Problems

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Baby boomers who decide to open a new branch of the family later in life face a number of problems other than the obvious physical difficulties that can present in the average woman in her forties who puts her body through a process traditionally reserved for younger people.

An older lady contemplating a new baby will perform a number of searches online into the pros and cons of having a baby and be dismayed to find that there are few pros and plenty of cons to terrorize a prospective mother, with all the risks of Downs Syndrome, miscarriage and complications and a plethora of other possible drawbacks outlined in depressing detail. You need to reach Google Page 3 before finding an encouraging forum!

A woman in later life will have developed intellectual and social tastes that extend beyond the realms of changing diapers and choosing nursery wallpaper. Although most baby boomers who are new mothers are pleased to set their own entertainment to one side while their new baby is very young, toddler groups and other activities designed to attract mothers with mutual interests can represent a gap in social interests.

Baby boomers can sometimes feel like social outcasts when thrown into a circle of mothers in their twenties and early thirties with a wealth of other hobbies and interests in common apart from the obvious link of being mothers to young children. Psychological articles that investigate the difficulties experienced by older parents see this feeling of being excluded as non productive and could even be a contributing factor to baby blues, or post natal depression.

As baby gets older, the older mother feels even more outside the normal circle of younger parents, as children begin to socialize. Some children quite innocently associate older ladies with grandparents and it is not unusual for them to make an assumption that their friend’s mother is actually a grandma. It can be embarrassing for an older mother when such mistakes occur in the company of other adults as apologies are made, making older Mom feel even more elderly!

Some people are quite happy to be different and be set apart from others but for many older mothers, part of the pleasure that comes from being a new mother is closely connected with the social link to be enjoyed with other new mothers and their children. Psychological articles recommend that mothers in this situation seek groups that provide social activities for older mothers, to help minimize feelings of exclusion before moving on to a more varied range of parental ages and interests.

Whatever age baby boomers are, pregnancy and birth in later life can offer a range of minuses and pluses but no more or less than at any other time of life, providing there is enough love to go around and always remembering that Mom’s health and well being will require a little more attention if she is to remain fit enough to chase a two year old around the supermarket…

The Psychological Article on Fitting In With Younger Mothers: The Older Mother’s Dilemma is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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