Archive for August, 2009

Parental Obsession and the Dangers of Umbilical Addiction

Saturday, August 29th, 2009

Psychological Articles on Parental Obsession

Psychological Articles on Parental Obsession

 

 
Psychological Articles By Boomeryearbook.com

The tight bond which develops between parent and child is well documented to be a driving life force; its legendary power to protect and shield has made history through the ages.  One reads of parents rescuing their children from burning cars or sinking ships, finding almost super human strength to lift many times their body weight, or survive underwater for impossible lengths of time to save their child from drowning, and so on.  Occasionally, this life force warps and becomes damaging to parent, child, and any unfortunate individual close enough to be affected by association.

Sometimes nicknamed Umbilical Addiction, the most common form of this disorder is in women, the maternal instinct propagating into an obsessive need to smother and control, turning the child eventually into an over weaned, incapable shadow, although it is possible for this ugly condition to appear in male parents.  Commonly the attention is focused on a daughter but it can appear between fathers and sons.

The symptoms of obsession begin early, when the child is a toddler, or even before the child is out of diapers.  The mother can go to extraordinary lengths to ensure her child is completely dependant, lavishing attention and unnecessary gifts upon the youngster to guarantee devotion and loyalty.  Detection and control of this behavior is invariably impossible, as all the symptoms are confused with ‘spoiling’ – an over simplified and dog-eared expression sometimes applied to a disorder with far less serious implications.

As the child develops, the traits of this dreadful condition become more obvious.  Interference in the mother’s (or father’s) control results in anger, or even aggression toward anyone who might try to intervene in the child’s behavioral difficulties.  As the child becomes older, the early spoiling tactics produce unacceptable acts of rebellion and disobedience, usually incurring the disapproval of the rest of the family.

The child staggers into adolescence, displaying alarming behavioral dysfunctions such as thieving, lying and rudeness, and always the young adult will continue to remain closely attached to the very parent causing the damage. Elaborate lies may be invented to cover misdemeanors, both by the parent and the offspring, until eventually, as the young adult leaves school and enters the workplace, the delinquent has developed into a dangerous, ego obsessed, narcissistic psychopath.  Sometimes, the situation has festered over such a long period it is impossible for the child to function without the approval and support of the parent.

In extreme cases, the dependency of the child combined with the overbearing control of the parent results in an incestuous relationship as the child is unable to cope with normal interaction with the opposite sex.

Each time the ‘child’ is confronted by authority,  even by the authority of the offending parent, the reaction becomes more intensely anti social, until eventually the individual develops a strong dislike and an active antagonism for most social codes.  Throughout most of this adult’s young life, excuses have been found for his or her stealing, lying, idleness and general delinquency.  When evidence is presented to this person that such behavior cannot continue, the result can be dangerously aggressive and sometimes vindictive.

Such people commonly display a desire to adopt pets, such as dogs and cats, but invariably are cruel to the animals.  The ownership of such pets gives the person comfort and supplies a need which is the result of having few friends.  However, as they are unable to deal with responsibility, they lash out at the animal when they are required to nurture it in any way that causes personal inconvenience.

The early childhood of such people is the key to the behavioral disorders which become apparent later in life.  The adult cannot bear responsibility or control of any description and often their inability to cope with authority and routine leads them to become more and more anti social.  Frequently, they are unable to interact normally with people and elect to work in jobs which do not require social skills.  An ideal profession for such a person would be long distance truck driving, or light house keeping, or working in very noisy environments which prevent conversation – professions which necessitate extended periods of solitude and require little co operation with colleagues.

Those who have reached adulthood carry an ingrained inability to parent their own children.   Typical behavior of such a person would be to produce children but then treat them badly, and so the cycle continues.  Many families tolerate such people because they believe their behavior is merely eccentric; some even imagine them to be colorful in some way, someone to be ‘put up with’ because after all, everyone is different. 

The havoc caused within close family circles by such behavior is unimaginably distressing, especially when the parent invents lies to cover bad behavior, sometimes at the expense of other family members.  Often the cycle of deceit goes on for years, perhaps even up to and after the death of the parent.  Occasionally, the disorder develops into a more sinister condition when the parent, through death, is no longer able to provide emotional support.

The Psychological Article on Parental Obsession and the Dangers of Umbilical Addiction is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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Will Obama’s Health Plan Cause The Great Exodus?

Saturday, August 29th, 2009

Barrack Obama - All Leaving?

Barrack Obama - All Leaving?


By Boomeryearbook.com

Health care policy reforms continue to outrage baby boomers; the potential unwitting sponsors of health treatment for many who have not paid taxes for years. As the new health proposals unfold, each grisly new detail seems to be worse than the last and American baby boomers and senior citizens brace themselves for the effects of what appears to be a health plan package from hell.

1% of the country is targeted to subsidize the bulk of expense required, to provide health care for the rest of it, in a bizarre Robin Hood scenario designed to rob the rich to fund the poor. Many of the worst affected tax payers and those deemed to qualify as the 1% ‘rich’, required to fund the fancies (and possibly foibles) of a government intent on supplying health at any cost, in fact represent the cream of the country’s intelligentsia: they also comprise the most effective managers and promoters of industry.

Those in charge of reform imagine that the wealthy minority has no choice but to carry the burden of cost for those who cannot or will not provide their own private health insurance. Not so: the reality is that this well-heeled handful of citizens destined for financial victimization in the form of dramatic tax increases are more than adequately equipped to fund a hasty exit to countries offering more attractive tax levels.

In the late nineties, British Prime Minister Tony Blair imposed the notorious IR35 tax law. It was credited with being directly responsible for the IT brain drain in the UK which saw thousands of independent contractors flow out of the country in search of more hospitable tax environments. Predictions are that an exodus of the cream of American professionals will follow a similar but faster trend, with some electing to relocate to other States to benefit from less aggressive taxation on offer, such as Florida and Texas. In short, the smart people are planning to pack their bags and ‘Get out of Dodge’. And who could blame them?

Cap and Trade restrictions pose further financial problems for the professional sector, forcing companies at the cutting edge of industry and commerce to raise consumer prices, resulting in a higher cost of living for average American families. Adjustments at the top, as always, result in a domino effect and hardship at consumer level; in our own back yards.

The finest talent of America’s professional sector waits and watches with dread while Mr. Obama pushes through his Stimulus Package at the helm of one of the most ambitious social reforms the country has ever seen, predicted to cause serious unemployment and further financial mayhem in an already unstable economic climate.

Senior baby boomer health sector professionals are forecast to be the first of the smart guys dusting off their matched luggage and heading for the hills…

The Cunning Plan

The Cunning Plan

Additionally, it is not only the tax feature of the health plan that will hurt older citizens as if Obama gets his wishes it seems that savings will be squeezed from Medicare and Medicaid. Regarding Medicare, Mr. Obama has expressed his disdain for giving advanced treatment or new (read expensive) drugs to older people (OUCH), older being defined as the aging boomer and seniors, the people who have been paying social security taxes all our lives. (For instance, those of us who began working somewhere around the age of 16, continuing to the age of 65, and wishing there were employment opportunities available to us today so that we could remain part of the productively employed workforce.)

Mr. Obama, just a suggestion here. Instead of squeezing us older citizens how about squeezing the ambulance chasers, who regard an auto accident as a lottery ticket? Nah! Those appear to be the people who give vast contributions to election campaigns, along with causing mal practice insurance premiums to rise so much that it is hard to find an Obstetrician in some communities, as well as causing doctors to practice defensive medicine and order lots of unnecessary tests which add to waste.

If this Health Care Plan is approved it seems likely that it is going to cost lots of money, lower the quality of health care to the lowest common denominator (except Congress, of course), ration care, define some surgeries as optional, thereby adding real risk of a worsening condition. Yikes. This is certainly not what we hoped for in our senior years.

This Psychological Article on Will Obama’s Health Plan Cause The Great Exodus? is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of articles exploring and in some cases poking fun at politics and current events in the hopes of shedding light on baby boomer problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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