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Baby Boomers Can Survive The Current Economic Times

Tuesday, December 30th, 2008


Baby Boomers are some of the people most affected by the current worldwide recession. As a result, you find your dreams of retirement being delayed because your pension funds are far less that you’d anticipated at this time of your lives. If you are retired, you may get nervous about the fact that your money is in institutions that have failed or are unstable. Some of you are anxious that you face the prospect of having to return to work to make ends meet. Some of you, also, find yourselves not being able to do the things that you used to because you simply can no longer afford it or you don’t want to spend your money on anything that’s not necessary. There are some things you can do to keep your spirits and finances up despite the downtimes.


Sit down with spouse, child, counselor, pastor, or close friend and discuss what’s causing you anxiety. Ask them to help you come up with a plan of action to combat the problem. If the problem is beyond your control; acknowledge that and ask for help to get past it. Make sure you share the fact that you’re experiencing pangs of anxiety with someone you trust. Try not to watch too much television news as the news you hear may make you feel even more anxious. Do not keep it to yourself, it will bring you down and you might end up being depressed.


If you’ve lost money on your pension fund and you’re retired or within ten years of retirement, count your losses and take the rest of your money out of the stock market. Put it in something more stable like a Certificate of Deposit or even a savings account. If you think you might have to work a couple years longer than you’d planned, accept it. Recognize that it’s something beyond your direct control and ask your family members and friends for support. Keep a keen eye out for investment opportunities that are guaranteed that may yield a higher return that what you have now. You could put more of your saving into a Certificate of Deposit or extend the term as this usually gives you a higher rate of interest.


So, you can’t go to dinner once a week anymore; then go once a month. If you can no longer afford to go to bingo at the club, have bingo night at your house and have your friends bring something to eat. You could also rotate homes and each bingo night is held at a different friend’s home. If golf’s your game and you think the club fees are a bit over-the-top, try miniature golf or go as a guest a few times a year. It might also be a good time to get a new hobby…something that does not require a lot of money such as hiking, cycling, volunteering etc. It is a great opportunity to learn something new.

Please be aware that does not have the expertise to give professional advice on the topics. The above are simply possible suggestions and should be done with the help of a true professional in the respective fields should that be necessary. We welcome your own suggestions on how Boomers can survive the economic downturn. We look forward to hearing from you and hearing your responses to our weekly tips. Sign on for next week’s update on baby boomers and municipal bonds. is a social networking site connecting the Baby Boomer generation. Share your thoughts, rediscover old friends, or expand your mind with brain games provided by clinical psychologist, Dr. Karen Turner. Join today to discover the many ways we are helping Boomers connect for fun and profit.

Baby Boomers And The Dating Scene – Have No Fear

Tuesday, December 30th, 2008


There are many Baby Boomers who are single as a result of the death of a spouse or a divorce. They may have been alone for years for a number of reasons, but one of the most compelling reasons is that they are afraid to get ‘out there’ and date again. For many, it’s been decades since they’ve last had to dress to impress and feign interest in the most boring subjects. They’ve lost confidence and think they would not be able to pull off a date and furthermore things have changed much since they last dated.

Here are seven tips to take to get you back on the dating train before you know it.

1) Make sure you are ready. For most, this is probably the hardest first ste. After losing your partner of so many years, how can you even think about looking for another to possibly replace him/her? It is almost inconceivable, right. If you think this way, you’re probably not ready. On the other hand, you may say: My spouse is not coming back and I have to get on with my life. What we had was truly special, but now it’s over and while I cherish those memories, I would like to make new ones with another special person. This is a great sign that you’re ready to start dating.

2) Don’t go looking for your partner. It’s very easy to compare people you meet with your former partner, don’t do it. This is not a healthy way to start a relationship and, in the end, you’ll be very disappointed as you’ll never find him/her. Try to approach the person with an open mind and look for characteristics that you like rather than that are alike your former spouse’s. If you’re unable to do so, you might not be ready for the dating scene.

3) Stick with your peers. Young people make everyone around them feel young as well. For this reason, some Baby Boomers may be very attracted to someone much younger than themselves. While there is nothing wrong with this per se, be sure that you’re doing this for the right reasons. This person should be placed under the same scrutiny your older neighbor underwent before you decided not to take him/her up on the lunch offer. If you simply want to feel young, may I suggest a new, exciting hobby like mountain climbing, speed racing or motorcycling?

4) Go looking for a date in familiar places. If you don’t usually go to bars, do not go to bar to find a date. Chances are you’ll find someone who is nothing like what you expected and the whole experience might but a damper on your enthusiasm for dating. If you go to the library, then look for a date there. You know already that you share at least one similar interest and this can be the subject of the ice breaking conversation.

5) Choose a familiar location for the first date. Going on a first date is stressful enough for anyone, so you don’t want to add to the stress load by being in unfamiliar surroundings. Go to someplace that’s relaxing and not too noisy. If you and your date live in the same neighborhood, go to a local sidewalk café for brunch or lunch. This way you’ll feel more at home and not half as self-conscious as you’d normally feel.

6) Stay in the now. Do not try to analyze your date or his/her behavior before the night’s over. Take time to give him/her a fair chance at winning you over. Listen keenly and ask pertinent questions that show that you understand what’s being said. Don’t get too far ahead of yourself. Enjoy the moments.

7) Look for a friend not a spouse. Do not go on a date looking for another spouse. Try to find a friend first. The person you date may not end up being your spouse, but could make a very, very good friend for many years to come.

Dating can be as much fun as it is scary. It really depends on your attitude towards it. Keep a positive mindset and make sure you know something about the person before going on a date with him/her. Do not make your first date a blind date. It will prove an added source of stress that you really don’t need. Find your own date and go for it. If it doesn’t work out, at least you will have had a good time and possibly gained a good friend.

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Great News For Baby Boomers: Hair Cloning Is On Its Way!!

Tuesday, December 30th, 2008


Losing one’s hair can happen at any age; however, as one grows older the odds are greatly increased. There are men who may like the fact that they have little to no hair; but women and many men who suffer from thinning hair loss may long for the days when they had nice thick locks that they can run their fingers through. They might have tried all the hair treatment products available on the market and found them to be ineffective and expensive. But hold on Boomers; as on the horizon appears to be a successful new hair loss solution!

A team of British researchers, located in Manchester, have worked tirelessly on improving the technique of hair cloning – officially called ‘follicular cell implantation.’ The procedure involves taking any remaining strands of hair on a person’s head and cloning it in a laboratory. This basically means that they take a hair sample and produce at least 100 hairs. They are multiplied in a Petri dish and then transplanted onto a bald spot on the person’s head. They have tested their methods on humans and found the results inspiring. The research results are so encouraging that it has led the British government to provide financial support to the tune of 1.9 billion pounds!

The scientists presented their latest findings (Phase II of their trials) at a conference in Rome in 2008. They found that the method used worked on 66 percent of the test subjects after a period of six months and 80 percent if they stimulated their scalps as a way of encouraging their hair to grow.

This exciting news has researchers in the USA, Italy and Japan also looking at the possibilities of hair cloning. Each country is vying to be the first to bring this technique to the bald or balding person. The reason: The country that does stands to make a whole lot of money from all the people who will be lined up to undergo the procedure and regain their youthful looks.

The British team says it expects to have the procedure available to the masses within five years. They are convinced that they are far ahead of the other countries and will win the race. Theirs is seen as being faster than and not as invasive as hair transplant procedures of today. Their study is 48 weeks long and they will share the full details of the results in 2009.

Baby Boomers who would like to regain their hair of the past should start saving for what is expected to be a very expensive procedure. Ah! The price we are willing to pay for keeping up our appearances…..

We at are very excited at the prospect of having an effective option to baldness or thinning hair, how about you? Share with us. is a social networking site connecting the Baby Boomer generation. Share your thoughts, rediscover old friends, or expand your mind with brain games provided by clinical psychologist, Dr. Karen Turner. Join today to discover the many ways we are helping Boomers connect for fun and profit.

How to Recognize and Deal with Paranoid Personalities

Tuesday, December 30th, 2008

An Uncertain Economic Future Can Cause Paranoia Among Baby Boomers:

How to Recognize and Deal with Paranoid Personalities


Anyone who has not been asleep for the past few months have good reason to be scared, or at least slightly afraid, when you think about the economic future of the United States’ and world’s economies. Unfortunately Baby Boomers are amongst those hardest hit by the results of poor oversight and little foresight. Many have lost 40 percent or more of their investments and this kind of sudden loss of wealth can lead to devastating negative effects on one’s mental health.

Paranoid personality disorder is often identified in someone who is pervasively unreasonably suspicious and distrustful of others. Their doubts are not based on anything objective or substantive and can get to the point where they are afraid to be around people for fear that they will be exploited. In some cases, they become hostile towards others and project their paranoid feelings outwards; attributing others with exploitative behaviors and failing to see their own ill emotions and actions.

These symptoms usually develop over a period of time and therefore should be analyzed based on the person’s long-term behavior – possibly from a period of time when something dramatic happened in that person’s life.

The development of this problem is often a response to a feeling of anxiety and/or stress. The greater the anxiety and/or stress, the higher the level of paranoia. Dealing with the problem effectively requires patience, persistence, and oftentimes professional help.

· First, be sure that the person does indeed suffer from paranoia. Do so by checking the symptoms and consulting a professional.

· Second, if this is a loved one, work with a professional to obtain an effective medication and therapy schedule. Most people who are paranoid will not readily go to a doctor or psychotherapist as they do not trust them either. You may have to do a lot of persuasion or coercion in order to get your loved one help.

· Third, ensure that the person is surrounded by people who can be trusted. Should they have a real reason to distrust someone; it will significantly set the effects of the treatment backwards. Do not make jokes or say things that might be misconstrued.

· Fourth, exercise patience. The recovery process is slow and may have some setbacks, but keep a positive attitude and encourage the person to do the same. There is no guarantee that the person will be completely healed of paranoid behavior; but it can be greatly reduced to the point where the person can function normally in social and work situations.

In February, 2008, two researchers from Duke University discovered that dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) can possibly be used to treat people with the American Psychiatric Associations Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM-IV)diagnosis of Paranoid Personality disorder. This therapy is in the early stage of discovery and will keep you up-to-date on its success.

Considering all the fraud, greed, stealing, and corruption that led to the collapse of the US and subsequently the global economy, it is not hard to see why someone who has had to suffer the consequences of other people’s unethical actions would become a bit paranoid. Putting your money under your mattress and not trusting banks may be a reasonable reaction that demonstrates our diminished confidence in the nation’s financial institutions. However, thinking that your spouse, child or neighbor is also out to do you harm is a good sign that you’re a bit more paranoid than is normal. If you find this to be true about yourself or a loved one, seek help right away before it gets worse.

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Are Casey Anthony and Bernard Madoff Classic Sociopaths?

Sunday, December 28th, 2008

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The average anti-social personality or ’sociopath’ is not a serial killer or an obviously scary person. They can be our children, neighbors, boss, co-workers or friends. The trait they have in common is that they are always using others around them for their own benefit, without empathy and without remorse. Recently the stories of Casey Anthony and Bernard Madoff have made the news. They are both seemingly average people, but could they be classic sociopaths? This article is an exploration of the ‘publicly reported” personality behaviors of Casey Anthony and Bernard Madoff and is not meant to be read as a condemnation of guilt or a professional DSM-IV diagnosis. We are simply looking at behaviors and exploring the question.

Casey Anthony

By now everyone should be familiar with the ongoing investigation into the murder of the two-year old daughter of Casey Anthony of Orange County, Florida. Anthony, a 22 year old who came into the spotlight after her mother reported her 2 year old daughter missing for more than a month.

The first sign of a classic sociopath is their ability to leave a situation without a second thought. Pictures and testimony from friends reveal that during the month that Caylee was missing, Casey spent her time shopping (with checks stolen from her friends) and partying without any display of the sadness or desperation one would expect from a mother whose baby had been kidnapped.

Conversations between a detained Casey and her family and friends revealed a young woman who was reportedly so consumed with her own life, needs and fate that she can only talk about herself. She would tell her parents how much she missed them and wanted to be back with them. There have been reports that Mr. & Mrs. Anthony were about to kick her out of the house when Caylee disappeared. Could she have killed her daughter to gain their sympathy? There have, also, been reports that she complained about having to take care of her daughter all the time. Could she have killed Caylee to regain her total freedom? Is that a possible explanation as to why she reportedly partied so much after Caylee disappeared?

Friends and family members describe Casey as a habitual liar. This is usually the first thing people recognize about ‘sociopaths’. They tell lies consistently and are often caught in inconsistencies which they lie their ways out of. Casey reportedly led the police officers on a wild goose chase to the supposed kidnapper’s apartment (where no one had lived for 5 months) and to her workplace at Universal Studios (where she hadn’t worked in 2 years); is this a sign of an anti-social sociopath or is there another explanation for Casey’s behavior?

Having watched Casey as portrayed by the media presentations of the past couple of months, it does appear that she may indeed have sociopathic tendencies. In particular there appears to be seen a kind of childish triumphant sense of ‘victory’ as her innocence is staunchly defended by parents. However Casey’s actual innocence or guilt is outside the scope of this article and whether or not she is indeed a sociopath needs to be left to qualified professionals. At this moment, it does seem a plausible possibility. What do you think? Share with us at

Bernard (Bernie) Madoff

Bernard (Bernie) Madoff has duped both individuals and businesses alike to the tune of 50 billion dollars. He did this by creating an exclusive investment firm and recruiting his wealthy and/or well-connected friends and family to invest with him. His fund was so successful and elite that only ’special’ people were allowed to invest in it.

According to the media, Madoff confessed his crime to his two sons who then turned him in to the authorities after consulting with their lawyer. Friend and family members have expressed shock at the revelations. The Bernie Madoff they knew would never do something like that. In their eyes, he was too kind, too friendly and too trustworthy.

While the reaction of those who know him are typical of people who find out that they are dealing with sociopaths, the behavior of Madoff, himself, does not seem to fit one of the main characteristics of persons with anti-social personality disorder. The average sociopath would not confess to doing something wrong because they are convinced they are right and entitled, and don’t care if what they are doing is immoral or illegal. Therefore his confession may go against all that it means to be a sociopath; unless it was done in a bragging grandiose way, and there doesn’t seem to be any evidence that it was. On the contrary, there’s speculation that he confessed to save his sons from prosecution or in order that his investors can get back some funds from the government which they would not have otherwise gotten had he just said that the investments did not yield any returns. Either of these scenarios would mean that he’s thinking about others in a caring way (i.e. he’s being empathic) which is definitely not a trait that is associated with sociopaths.

So while Bernie Madoff may be one heck of a con-man, the evidence presented so far does not point to his being a sociopath. What do you think? Tell us at is a social networking site connecting the Baby Boomer generation. Share your thoughts, rediscover old friends, or expand your mind with brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join today to discover the many ways we are helping Boomers connect for fun and profit.

Boomers Alert: A ‘Sociopath’ May Be Living Too Close To You

Sunday, December 28th, 2008

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According to the DSM-IV, (American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual), a person over the age of 18 who shows a pervasive pattern of disregard for, and the violation of the rights of others with these patterns of behavior beginning in childhood and commonly termed a ‘sociopath’, or ‘psychopath’ is assigned a diagnosis of Anti-Social Personality disorder. The primary characteristics of this disorder are ego-centrism, very fragile self-esteem, lack of empathy towards others, and envy directed at others. The clinical diagnosis of anti-social personality disorder can be confusing to non professionals as these individuals are quite interactive with others but in anti socially acceptable ways; their social actions are based in deceitful and manipulative behaviors that show a total lack of concern for the physical or emotional well being of other people.

Sociopaths live in a world that they think revolves solely around them. They tend to think they are the ones who cause things to happen. If the results are positive, they take the credit; if they are negative, they tend to blame others. For the sociopath, life, living and relationships are all games to be won; at other’s expense. Lacking empathy, they also lack remorse or guilt for their oftentimes crushingly destructive actions.

Why do people become anti-social ‘sociopaths’?

Various researchers have debated the causative factors involved in anti-social personality disorder. One theory is that children may adopt these tendencies from their parents who might be similarly anti-social and narcissistically disordered. Another is that the child was born with a genetic defect that causes the brain to function differently from that of ‘normal’ people. What is not debatable is that anti-social ‘sociopathic’ behavior is more likely to occur in men than in women. About 1% of women have this disorder, while 3% of men are affected by it.

How can you recognize one?

Sociopaths share the following characteristics which make them easily identifiable if you know what to look for:

1) They are glib and exude superficial charm.

2) They do not acknowledge the rights of others around them and see them only as targets and/or instruments to be used.

3) They lie constantly – sometimes quite unnecessarily.

4) They think they are entitled to everything they want and will do anything and use anyone to get it.

5) They feel no remorse, shame or guilt. Instead they have suppressed rage that rarely surfaces, but when it does can be quite violent. Their motto is ‘The end justifies the means.’

6) They do not have the ability to love, care or feel empathy for others.

7) They are bored easily and always need to have something interesting happening in their lives.

8) They have a history of problems as a child. Early episodes of animal cruelty are a good predictor of anti-social ‘sociopathic’ behavior.

9) They are irresponsible and unreliable. They do not keep jobs for long and do not spend a long time working on any particular project.

10) They are sexually promiscuous and are unable to be faithful in any relationship.

11) They are a dangerous combination of a predator and a parasite. They hunt down their victims (sometimes aggressively and sometimes passively) and then live off them for as long as they can. They usually only move on when they are found out and confronted or when there’s nothing left to get from the victim.

12) They change their life stories very easily to suit the situation they are in at the moment. They will even go to the extremes of changing their images to avoid prosecution.

How do you deal with an anti-social ‘sociopath’?

If you know anyone close to you who fits the above characteristics, you might know a sociopath. If this is the case, here’s how you should deal with the situation.

· End the relationship immediately. This may sound harsh, and it is, but it is very necessary. DO NOT try to confront this person with your thoughts. Sociopaths are vey skilled at making you feel as though you are wrong and/or delusional. Simply stop interacting with this person altogether. If this person is a minor child or spouse, take steps to get away from that person as soon as possible.

· Deal with initial denial. It will be hard to accept there is something horribly wrong with your family member or friend. Accept it. Do not start making excuses for them. The relationship you have with the person is not real – at least on his/her side. It is only special to you.

· Deal with the anger that follows. Once you realize you have been victimized by a sociopath, you will feel like getting even. But be warned: That would be risky and stupid. It’s better to get over your anger.

· Rescue others. If you know others who are also close to the anti-social ‘sociopath’. You have escaped and it’s a great opportunity to help others do the same. The important thing here is to stick to the facts and try not to alarm the person. Remember; do not talk negatively about the ‘sociopath’. Instead, calmly explain examples of his sociopathic behavior with which you are both familiar.

· Move on with your other friends. Go on with your life and try to forget about that person. This may be hard to do as you may have bills, illnesses or other negative reminders of their person’s presence in your life. Go to therapy if you feel you need to, but you must move on. Under NO circumstances should you allow the person back into your life…regardless of what’s going on with them.

What treatments are available for sociopaths?

The short answer is ‘None.’ ‘Sociopaths’ are not keen to change their lifestyles so they will not agree to any kind of treatment even if it were available. They are, also, so skilled at deception that they may even deceive psychologist. Many can pass lie detector tests easily. Medication does not help because they are not considered mentally ill.

However, if the characteristics are recognized in a child younger than 15 years, (DSM-IV Conduct disorder) there is a possibility that they can be taught empathy. Unfortunately, this diagnosis is rare and, sometimes, even if the child is diagnosed many parents may not take action promptly because they do not understand the full ramifications of having an anti-social ‘sociopathic child’.

Anti-social personality disordered persons do not have a conscience. As a result, they cannot understand what others might be feeling….despite recognizing their own feelings in a similar situation. They are masters at mimicking these feelings though and this makes it very difficult for ‘normal’ people to know that they are faking before it’s too late. They have the uncanny ability to find weaknesses and strengths in others and prey or play on them to get what they want. Ultimately, it only about them and you really do not matter.

Do you think you know someone with an anti-social personality disorder or a ‘sociopath’? Get help and get out. Tell us about it at is a social networking site connecting the Baby Boomer generation. Share your thoughts, rediscover old friends, or expand your mind with brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join today to discover the many ways we are helping Boomers connect for fun and profit.

The Future of Facelifts May Be In Using Radio Frequency Waves: Baby Boomers Turning to Thermage

Sunday, December 28th, 2008

The Future of Facelifts May Be In Using Radio Frequency Waves:Baby Boomers Turning to Thermage

The Future of Facelifts May Be In Using Radio Frequency Waves:Baby Boomers Turning to Thermage


Put away your anti-wrinkle, anti-sagging creams; say “No!” to the knife; and turn your back on Botox. There is a new way of keeping your face looking young and fresh called Thermage. This new method is yet another discovered benefit of using radio frequency waves. It was previously found to be quite effective in getting rid of wrinkles, lifting eyebrows and tightening sagging skin around the eyes. In Chicago autumn, (2007) Dr. Javier Ruiz-Esparza from San Diego, California (the man behind the discovery) told The American Society of Dermatologic Surgery about his findings.

This exciting new breakthrough is said to produce a more natural look than the previous options available for facelifts. This is so because the heat waves help in distributing the tissue under the skin while cryogen is used to keep the surface of the skin cool. This is done by alternating cool-hot-cool waves onto the skin. This produces a tightening and lifting effect of the skin as a result of the heated tissue contracting in response to the cool skin surface. The entire procedure takes between 30-90 minutes depending on what part of the body you are treating.

Unlike facelift surgery, Thermage does not normally produce immediate results. In fact, it could take two or three months before you will actually see any result, and a few more before you will look your best. The reason for this is that the radio frequency waves only use the amount of collagen that is in your face to do the facelift. However, the waves also stimulate growth of new collagen which occurs over the next few months. When your face has the appropriate amount of collagen, you’ll notice a significant difference in your looks.

An advantage to using Thermage to eliminate or reduce wrinkles and sagging is that it is safer than some of the other available choices. Even though Botox has become very popular, there is very little research as to its long-term effects on the body. Facelift surgery can cause nerve damage and other complications, especially if done by a surgeon who is not very experienced. There is, also, no risk of getting skin cancer from using Thermage.

Currently, radio frequency waves work wonders for people with low to medium loss of skin elasticity. The waves do not react differently to different skin pigmentation in the way some lasers do. This is very good news for people with dark skin.

Baby Boomers who feel young and want to look fresh would do very well to do some research on Thermage. It is the perfect solution to someone who’d like to get rid of a few wrinkles and lift a bit of sagging skin here and there. You’ll feel good knowing that the collagen in your body is all natural; no downtime, nothing invasive.

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A Boomers Guide to Dealing With Bi-Polar and Mood Disorders During A Recession

Sunday, December 28th, 2008

A Boomers Guide to Dealing With Bi-Polar and Mood Disorders During A Recession

A Boomers Guide to Dealing With Bi-Polar and Mood Disorders During A Recession


The current economic recession will see many people having to deal with different situations, either with themselves or their family members. One of the problems that have been increasing amongst Americans, especially older ones, is anxiety about the future. This anxiety can result into the onset of a variety of mood disorders that range from being relatively mild to severe.

Depression and Bipolar Disorder are two types of mood disorders that are becoming increasingly common. Depression has many levels and often goes undiagnosed for a long time if it’s mild. Bipolar Disorder is a bit easier to identify because it involves severe mood swings that others will find abnormal and may seek to investigate the matter further.

How do you know if you are depressed or have bipolar disorder

There are signs that you can use to tell you if you or a loved one is depressed.

· You feel sad, irritable or tense at all times.

· You find yourself not enjoying hobbies and other things that you used to enjoy.

· You don’t have a lot of energy even when you’ve done nothing all day.

· You either lose or gain a lot of weight due a change in your eating habits.

· You’re either sleeping too much or not enough.

· You have difficulty concentrating on something for a prolonged period of time.

· You have times when you feel as though you’re not contributing to your family, job or community – a general sense of worthlessness.

· You think about committing suicide or dying.

· In the case of bipolar disorder, you have mood swings that go from one extreme to the other.

How to deal with it

If you find that most of the above signs fit your current emotional state, you may be depressed or have bipolar disorder and need to seek professional help immediately. This does not mean that you should start taking a lot of medication; but it is the first step in diagnosing whether or not you really have a mood disorder. A professional will help you create a mood chart on which you can record your moods over a period a time so that you can be accurately diagnosed.

Do not be afraid to talk about your findings with those close to you. Do not try to work things out alone; it will probably only make matters worse. Also, try to identify the source of your depression and, with the help of loved ones, work on a solution or a positive way of dealing with the problem.

These mood disorders have a way of creeping up on us and slowly eating away at our will to live without us realizing it. Awareness of the signs is the key to preventing anything devastating from happening as a result. As with most illnesses, persistence and patience are essential as you will not necessarily see immediate improvement, but that will come with time.

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Is Your Already Thin Grandchild Really Dieting?! What Boomers Need to Know About Anorexia

Sunday, December 28th, 2008


Your grandchild, the apple of your eye, is eating nothing but apples and carrots. She thinks she’s too fat. You can see her ribcage when she is wearing bikinis, yet she still insists that she needs to lose weight. She may be suffering from an eating disorder called anorexia. Young people who are just going into puberty are often the ones who tend to suffer most from anorexia.

The primary reason for this is that they are just beginning to become aware of their bodies and are comparing themselves to famous people who are said to be beautiful by ‘experts.’ If they don’t get the same ‘beautiful’ affirmation from those around them, they may strive to look more and more like the ‘beautiful people they see on TV or in magazines.

The Telltale Signs To Look For

Girls might have irregular menstrual cycles. Other signs such as weakness, skin that breaks easily, anxiety and/or shortness of breath should be cause for concern. People suffering from anorexia may not want to eat in public because they are afraid that others may notice that they are not eating much. They may, also, literally count their calories daily and are very strict about not going over a certain amount. You may, also, notice that they are exercise fanatics and may be drinking some kind of diet tea or taking diet pills.

They usually lose about 15% more weight than they should and this can sometimes cause health problems especially in girls. Their bones may not develop as fully as they should, their body temperatures will be abnormally low; they may develop an irregular heartbeat and they may be much smaller in height and body size than their peers.

If they use laxatives, it can weaken their bowel muscles and cause them to work less efficiently. Also, some of the laxatives on the market are not good for ingestion and can lead to other ailments when absorbed into the body for an extended period of time.

How You Can Help

If you suspect that your grandchild has anorexia, first extend a hand of support. Recognize and understand that they are not so much vain as they have been brainwashed by a superficial society that dictates to people who or what is supposed to be beautiful.

This is not an intervention that you will want to do alone. You’ll need her parents’ and some expert help. Check your local non-profit organizations and see if there’s a group that’s specifically for anorexics. If there is, tell her parents and ask them to go with her to a meeting. You may even volunteer to go with her as well. If there are no local groups that would be able to offer some help, you will have to go to a private eating disorder expert.

It is not unexpected for her to deny that she has a problem. This is the same with every kind of disorder. What you can do is give specific examples where she’s not like others or her behavior is not reasonable for someone her age. The most important thing to remember during this meeting is not to get angry but to be sure to let her know that you’re only trying to help.

It’s important to let your grandchild know that she’s beautiful just the way she is. If you notice an obsession with overly skinny models or celebrities, try to help her put that into perspective by using every opportunity to show her others who are just as beautiful but not as waif-like in appearance. Constant reinforcement of the idea that skinny is not necessarily the only way to ‘beautiful’ is a very good way to ward of any anorexic thoughts.

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Online Optical Illusions

Wednesday, December 24th, 2008

Online Optical Illusions

Online Optical Illusions


Many people are reluctant to admit that they find optical illusions intriguing. When asked they may say they are no more than silly games. Actually that is not true as there is much psychological and philosophical underpinnings that make people see or not see the optical illusion.

Not all optical illusions create the same response. There are three different types.

1. Literal Optical illusions

These give you the concept that they are images that are different from the objects that make them.

2. Physiological illusions

Create a huge amount of stimulation between the eyes and the brain. For example, color movement brightness or tilt will create this effect.

3. Cognitive Illusions

Where subconscious or unconscious inferences are made regarding the picture or illusion

Ok enough of the technical stuff let’s have some fun with the above four pictures.

Picture 1:

Not so exciting. All I see is a big circle with a diamond in it. Do you see anything else?

Picture 2:

This is my favorite. It’s a very pretty scene. There are some things that are unique about it though. Can you figure out what they are? Jot down your answers before you check out the answers below.

Picture 3.

This one makes me dizzy just looking at it. Once again I don’t find this one all that intriguing. I have my own concept as to what it looks like to me. Now what does it look like to you? See my answer below, but don’t cheat. Answer the question first it’s more fun that way.

Picture 4.

This is my second favorite because it has humor to it. It’s just an average elephant right? Or is it? Check out

my response below.


Picture 1:

This was not a trick question; I personally do not see anything else in the picture other than what it is.

Picture 2:

As I said this is my favorite. That is a personal choice, as I myself love winter scenes. Which jumped out at you first? The muted gray backgrounds or the cute little deer standing in full color? Actually how many observations did you make about this picture? Here are my observations.

a. The small deer is in full color

b. The sawed off tree trunk is in full color

c. The background is in soft grays and muted whites

d. There is only snow accumulated on the evergreen tree

e. The most exciting is the large outline of the male deer. Look real close and you will see it. Or am I just seeing things?

Picture 3

I visualize this as a disorientated set of stairs that I am really glad I don’t have to walk up or down because they make me dizzy.

Picture 4:

Just how many legs does this old elephant have? My first count was 5, maybe 6, and then look again, it’s really only 4. Had you thinking for a minute though didn’t it

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